Understanding Love!

I think that is love’s perfection, we want that calm, peace, love and happiness in all we do…but because we keep holding our fear it constantly nudges us past those ‘safe’ spots we have made for ourselves, to challenge us, change us, and become more understanding, more at peace, more loving…because as is, we don’t understand ‘us’ yet. And an interesting thing I spoke with Danielle about, after I saw my fear and understood it…I could ‘see’ so much. And I’m talking about seeing literally as well as our understanding, seeing ourselves in others coming through where we had been before.

People think I’m a great healer…but it is just that I’m healing from a place of understanding, I can ‘now’ see for a long way past what I was. It’s like asking a computer technician what was wrong with the computer, and he’ll spiel all this great tech talk and we’ll shake our head…but he fixed it beautifully. He ‘knows’ what he is talking about in his understanding of those dangfangled computers. I’m just a tech head of love. I’ve seen it in all its purity, and finally (not fully), in going past my fear and understanding it, I can now love myself. Only now can I truly give that love to others, otherwise I just gave the damaged fearful version of me and my love. As we all do in this journey, slowly, and sometimes suddenly, reaching into that truth within our hearts to understand. And it calls us…always πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

45 thoughts on “Understanding Love!

  1. What a fabulous thought on the simple yet gorgeous act of ‘knowing’, and especially knowing ourselves and what we were in order to bring that wisdom with us into the present. ❀️

    1. Thank you Layla, it took me a long time but I realized when I understood something…I let it go. In anything on this world, once we understand it, we let it go. It’s like learning to drive a car. In the beginning nervous, not fully understanding the signs, rules, keeping look out for so much going on around us…but as that time goes by and we understand…it becomes second nature and we barely think about it anymore. And our driving shows that, the hesitancy is gone, other drivers honking us in our slowness…all now gone as we now look forward to our next trip on the road to somewhere nice. Fears are the same, know them and life becomes so much easier, so much more loving. Have a great understanding kind lady, at its end is something so beautifully profound it will leave you in tears…big, beautiful happy tears in its understanding πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  2. You have a perspective and wisdom, Mark, that can only be obtained by surviving the darkness. Despite the pain and suffering, what a gift it is that you are here with a heart wide open, ready to receive and give love. Your words and encouragement of others are beautiful. Thank you for sharing. ❀️

    1. And I thank you kind lady. It can be a hard journey, but I swear with all that I am, that it is truly a gift. Behind it all is an understanding so incredibly beautiful, so profound that when you touch it…it will open you to an enlightenment like nothing else, an understanding so incredible that you will smile with every part of your being to see that each and every step was so worth it all. In understanding unconditional love we must first go through and understand our fearful conditional love. It is exactly like not truly being able to appreciate happiness unless we have been through and experienced sadness too. This world gives us it all, every emotion to build a heart, build a love in that understanding. We all get a gift from God through Spirit, whether it is art, a love of animals, or just being your own captain of life…but in there is that part of us that IS just us, a love in what we do. We just have to aim for that in all we do and the only thing that holds it back is our fears. Unconditional love is already here, it is just filtered by those fears, holding our hearts closed from the pain of those fears. But one day we will dare what it is, can’t go on as we are anymore and dare to ask ourselves why do we feel like this. Follow it back into our childhood where it all began…and ask ourselves how does that time make us feel, truly feel in that hurt and pain. That reaction of a child to close over because of how we feel from a pain from those we loved and looked up to. And in there is our answer, that moment will click and open something forever held tightly closed…and set you free. It may take some time, but it is meant to…so you can understand your fearful love first…and truly understand this opening when it comes. Never be afraid that it isn’t happening, that nothing will change, because it always will. You will touch many things and within those hard parts you are building that empathy, compassion and love anyway. We just need to break into that understanding of our fear…because it does the one thing that all else cannot do…in understanding it we will love the one person we have feared to…us. Because we have been afraid to. Our fears create a doubt that we are lovable, back in that moment as a child and we take that uncertainty through our lives, ever holding people at bay if they act like that loved one that hurt us…we all do…all in our own ways. We want to stay in that safe place within. But step through that pain, dare to challenge it…and you are free. Have a great day dear lady, and even if its cold or the sun is behind the clouds…it will come out tomorrow, or the day after, and you will appreciate it all the more because you have experienced those darker days. Thank you for sharing your heart, may it ever do so, especially to you β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  3. Oh, Mark!!! You are so bang on!! The more we dive into fear and our wounds the more we SEE thus able to heal and be more of who we are! It’s amazing! This Journey that is leading Goodness knows where is leading me into putting the fractured pieces of me back together and accepting more LOVE. When we embrace more Love, we see so far and wide and know so much!! The barriers fall away. Others who used to trigger us no longer do. Peace real peace remains in place and a glowing JOY like no other radiates from our hearts. Our confidence rises. Our fearlessness expands. Our minds expand. We accept more and more of what we used to term woo-woo as we begin to realize we are not alone in this Universe and the human race just does not mean inhabiting earth. There is so much more to our reality, and the more we dive into LOVE the more our DNA heals and the more we can understand regarding who we are.

    You wrote so powerfully and beautifully, my friend. Your Journey is exquisite and it is so exciting to witness. Thank you for sharing what you do!!! Thank you from the bottom of this big heart of mine. xoxoxoxox

    1. And thank you also dear Amy, your sharing of your journey allows me to see also. We so beautifully become mirrors for each other, testing our hearts waters to see where we are…through those other teachers, through ourselves, through life. And you are right, the views go on forever. I’m sure at times I think…yes, I’ve done it…and get sat on my backside again and again. I think it does go on forever…I suppose eternity is a long time πŸ˜‚ And yes to this beautiful place, it isn’t a prison cell as we think in the beginning, a crazy place that we got left in as discards or something…but truly given something so powerful, so beautifully designed so that we can find that love. It’s for us all to find, unconditionally. Each and every decision is ever ours. Oh, we will point the finger at so many things but truly, in the end, we now know this journey, each puddle, each muddy step is our own to find a beauty beyond words. Even seeing the mud as our friends because of it.
      Thank you for sharing my friend, I couldn’t have done it without you, your fur babies (who also teach well I might add 🀣), hubby, Karma, the other strays you draw into your energy…and of course those incredible pictures you share, each a tiny caricature of your heart that you share so that we can see ‘through you’ that there is beauty in this world. Your gift to us…as only unconditional love can do. It is there, just always below our horizons waiting until we can see β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

      1. Those who are ready to see, will see, Mark. And yes we all, again who are ready, act as teachers, guides, and/ or inspiration within our precious online group. One man I follow had a post on layers and now I’ve been thinking how cool it would be to do a post on layers through my photography. Will it happen? I don’t know. Yet we get each other thinking, contemplating, improving, learning, to which I honestly know is a very Good thing indeed!

        I had a chance to look back just a mere short 2 years ago and the pain and horror I was experiencing benefited me in that those circumstances assisted me to slay the beast within that was being triggered. However living through those times was frightening and sometimes I didn’t know if I could make it to the shore as I was drowning in turbulent boiling waters. It’s amazing that each puddle and the mud can if we so choose teach us how to address that wound still festering within in order that we move one step closer to the all encompassing Unconditional Love we were all meant to live.

        Your words on my “strays” and hubby and my pictures put a glow on my face and in my heart. Thank you, dear friend. I love my life. Wholly. I couldn’t say that a mere 2 years ago but now I can, in all ways. What a Journey we are on!!

        The moments are getting longer and longer now that I truly am living fully in Unconditional Love. And the deeper I go, the more wounds I see in those around me. I love on them in any way I am guided to, which feels Good, knowing it is their Journey which they and only they are responsible for.

        Keep shining brightly. You are beautiful, a star living on this earth leading the way for others to witness what it is like to live in Peace and in Love. BIG (((HUGS)))!! xo

        1. Ah Amy, these words are truly from that understanding that only that love can give. You have indeed been down that tunnel my friend, and as dark as it can be, it is finally balanced by a love beyond words. Thank you for sharing your journey, it encourages us all, shows what those steps build within us…and above them all…it sets us free in that love discovered. Thank you β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

    1. Thank you kind lady, it is a journey for us all to achieve our badges of love, to finally love that one person we had struggled with…us. But all with a great purpose. It is a teacher beyond words, and a destination most profound β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  4. Mark. I’m writing this from the reader. I will attempt to go to your site later, read your post, then post my comment here on the reader. I did not get back to your previous post to again comment and for that I do apologize. With love!! xoxo

    1. No apologies necessary Amy, the WordPress monster is a known animal 🀣 Just go with the flow kind lady, your heart is always here anyway my friend πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  5. Love the analogy to the computer repairman…sometimes we just know without being able to express it. The most wonderful thing, Mark, is that this beautiful love shines through your words. Your energy is clear and strong…I can feel it! The journey back to ourselves is the most incredible experience – If we are willing to bare our souls, take responsibility, and banish our fear!
    Sending lots of good vibes your way! ❀️

    1. Thank you Lorrie, it is a big journey for us all. A struggle back inside to that moment we block, and most certainly the making of us. That repair man is inside us all, searching for that fault we know is in there but hidden by that fear of a child. Have you asked a child what is wrong? They usually burst into tears and can’t find the words to express it, not understanding exactly what it is they are feeling. We too are that child trying to express what we are feeling. Find that inner child…with an adult mind…and suddenly the words will pour forth…and set us free. Thank you for sharing kind lady, may that understanding adult hold that inner child’s hand within, and set you free πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

      1. A beautiful wish, Mark! I have asked that child what’s wrong, and she broke down crying. I have held her and told her that everything is okay and that she is safe. She has never been able to fully express what is wrong; her fight/flight response kicks in and her throat closes where no speech is possible! There is still work to be done, that’s for sure – but I no longer worry that it is taking too long – or that it won’t ever be accomplished. I hold her. I love her. And I wait for her!
        Thank you for your healing heart and the ability to create a safe space in which to have these discussions. I am Blessitude!
        Have a wonderful weekend ❀️ _/\_

        1. Just be gentle Lorrie, it is a life’s work. A journey to find us among the flotsam of life. But it will, even if after such a long time. That is its appreciation, to know we have kept at it for so long trying to find our way out of the darkness of that closet covering our hearts. Just gently keep asking that inner child to feel that same feeling, see it from that time in how it made you feel, find the meaning behind it, that moment when your throat closes over. It happened because you felt something, a realization of how this treatment made you feel…and you blocked it, hence the tears and your throat closing over. Just be gentle in doing it, just ‘feel’ the moment and when it is time it will speak to you so you can see and understand. And finally be free in that understanding. Much love and light for you on this path Lorrie, a more loving thing you cannot do…to find that part we ever search for, that love and happiness in our journey πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

          1. Thank you, Mark, for the incredible wisdom you offer here…offered as someone who had been there, I can tell!

            I am sorry for the delay in responding…I just spent the last couple days in a fugue state…basically sleeping for 20+ hours per day. I was attacked by some “bug” that hit me like a freight train!

            Just had a little walk in the beautiful outdoors and connected to the day and nature and, even though I am very tired, it made me feel so much better.

            All good things to you, Mark. Thanks for understanding my journey and your willingness to offer a hand!! Sweet Blessings πŸ˜ŠπŸ’œπŸ™

            1. And thank you Lorrie, for daring to open your heart…that is love personified, to dare those inner fears and speak them anyway.
              Sorry to hear of the bug, we tend to ‘stress’ through life and it lowers our immune system for anything that is wandering by. Usually those bits of colds and flu’s, but sometimes ‘bugs’ touch us that don’t seem to be anything else we’ve touched before.
              I got what we call Ross River Fever (caught from mosquitoes), over here and the fatigue for the next 18 months was incredible. It would leave you drained and barely able to function. On a day to day basis it would hit suddenly and you had to go lay down and sleep, even if for just 10 minutes and the severity of it would ease away.
              Sleep and eat well dear lady, allow our bodies to heal so it can support our hearts during this journey to find it.
              Big hugs, and take care. And this journey will test us but just remember. It all does indeed have a very beautiful purpose. Yes, it can be hard, but in that is something wonderful πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

              1. Wow, Mark…I never heard of Ross River Fever..it sounds horrible and debilitating! I hope you are well beyond the effects of that terrible disease! I’m no stranger to strange illnesses…though I like to think I have evolved enough to not have to rely on any of that business. My experience fighting these things is that the cure is most times worse than the disease!

                Here’s to health and strength…and courage to continue on the true path of our journey. It’s so much better if we can embrace it all!!

                Much love and light!

                1. We all face these many things dear lady, encouraging us to fight the good fight, inner and outer.
                  Take care, much love and light to you also. I hope you are getting better, and with a heart like yours I have no doubt πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  6. Mark, I LOVE this (literally). I think that us β€œlove techs” should have name tags or uniforms so that others around us who don’t understand it can easily identify us for assistance. πŸ™ƒπŸ₯°πŸ’• you nailed it! Through love and loss, too many to count, from betrayal to becoming, from dying to delivering, from losing to living,…there was a time I no longer wanted to live. Period. I took drastic measures to make it a reality. It failed. And then love lifted me! It’s the only life support I need. Finley and I send you lots of love, Mark! πŸΎπŸ’•πŸ’ͺπŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ‘ŠπŸ»

    1. Haha, that is so brilliantly put Karla, your heart laid bare. And I thank you for trusting us with it. This journey does indeed take us up that mountain inside, sometimes reaching a place we feel we can’t go on…but God always gives us a hope, something to just take one more step. A little view of what’s possible. I dared God to show me some sanity in all this…so He did. Wow…and I mean wow! I sit here some days and just can’t utter a word (and that’s saying something 🀣), with the incredible ‘views’ that I get, an understanding that is beyond words in how it all amazingly fits together. I think that is how I got my ‘love tech’ badge, I got to play on the highway of life, the to and fro of our hearts to understand. Painful? Some days yes, but I always know it is being given with a great reason for that love inside us. When we get inside our current journey, it truly shakes us, even with the understanding that we have. All these experiences are truly asking us to feel…but in that realize we are being given something to understand His beauty awaiting us in that unconditional love beyond here. A huge hug to you and Finley, even a tail wag in his speaking. That too is expressing a love beyond words, we just know how they are feeling towards us in that one tiny wag…and the eyes. They too share something within us all. Take care Karla, lots of love and hope your way too, our journey is opening a very beautiful pathway πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

      1. You’re so incredibly wise and thoughtful. I love β€œI got to play on the Highway of life”;daring God and watching what he does! It’s a miracle to be here. And unconditional love is truly the reason for life. Finn and I send huge hugs back to you! Please take care! πŸ’•πŸ₯°πŸΎπŸΎπŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»

        1. I most certainly will Karla, I have much to do. But like you the edges are being tested a little, a new journey to see how far we’ve come I suppose. Love and light to you both πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

            1. And I love you both too!…a big hug dear lady, and a wag, wag too πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

    1. It is indeed Pam, and like anything we experience, that awareness from it allows us to ‘let go’ so much in a contentment of that understanding. But the chocolate…I must be still holding onto something…probably empty chocolate wrappers 🀣 Thank you for sharing kind lady, your journey has taken you far πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  7. As I experienced it, we see aspects and fractions. We see them but put them aside because each one makes no sense on its own – until one day, we find a connecting piece and all of a sudden some of those fractions become a bigger picture. Seeing that picture lifts you out of your former spot instantly. And with that lift you see even more of those fractions falling in place.
    For so long I was living in the misunderstanding that I have to make myself fit for fulfilling the expected and necessary conditions to be worthwhile, to be respected, and accepted for who I am – not seeing that this can never be who I am – because I was taught so for all my life. One day, all those layers got blown away in one moment and the truth laid high above me. I remember myself standing at the beach gazing at the atlantic ocean and understanding, that no one can ever tell me who I have to be to become who I want to be. And that I am entitled to become who I want to be. The fear evaporated since I realized that I don’t need to fear anything or anyone. No one can do anyhting about it, whatever I want to do with my life, whatever opinion I have and want to share. It is not my problem but the problem or those who need me to live their lives… That was when I started writing my book “I’m Free”.
    So, that became more detailed than planned, but your post is such pure inspiration. Thank you for me recalling one of the most important moments in my life. Thank you, Mark πŸ’–

    1. Now that is beautifully expressed Erika, it is indeed that moment you come back inside and do you with the love you have found because of it. It takes so long to reach that moment of understanding, that it is you that you have rejected in your doubts and fears passed on by those you love and look up to, and many others in their treatment of you. Mine, personally, was that rejection I felt from my dad, I always thought he didn’t love me. So in every relationship I expected them to love me by what I thought was the right way to love someone…and every time it always attracted someone who could not do it ‘my way’, to teach me my fear…and all I ever did was push them away…just like I felt my dad did to me. We are indeed images of them, those fears they pass onto us unintentionally simply because when we are born they have not resolved their own fears so don’t know any better. The day I could truly forgive myself and my dad, was the day I knew I was free. You have taken your heart on a glorious ride dear lady, and as painful as it can be, it is through there that your love will grow, fertilized by that understanding. That takes great courage to voice that pain, take a bow my friend, and let it ever be free in that love you found ❀️ Ah, and the book…is that the moment you could write from your heart, a signal from the universe’s unconditional love to finally write from a place where your pen is free, no longer bound by the strings of fear? Well done dear lady, I must investigate. Thank you for sharing πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

      1. I made a similar experience converted to my situation. My dad taught me that I had to be tough, no tears, no weakness, and how to live life right. He was rethorically way ahead of me. I had no voice when it came to an argument but always started crying in fear, humiliation, and helplessness. But it changed when he did something similar to one of my children and I stood tall. He could not twist the words in my mouth. I stood strong, clear, no sign of weakness or fear. Whatever he said or how loud he shouted, I was calm, clear, and steadfast. That was the moment when I realized that it had never been about me but only about him. It was the moment when I could forgive him because I was his own helplessness by being caught in himself.
        Wow, you bring so many of my experiences in context again.

        1. That is what we don’t realize, we block so much because of its pain and it doesn’t tap us on the shoulder until we go through it again. Anything painful is pushed away. It is an amazing thing we go through so that in resolving it a huge appreciation is gained and an incredible love of ourselves in facing it. Seeing it is built on an unintentional lie, a very inexperienced child’s view of the world and the crux of all our lives, that love we have, bent though we make it within those fears. You have had that light bulb moment dear lady where you could see how you have held that fear in all you do. That moment is indeed the making of us so that you could see how you had held yourself in all that you did, but it is in fact the exact thing needed to understand that unconditional love. Like all our emotions we cannot truly appreciate one side without experiencing the other too. We cannot experience and understand unconditional love truly without first experiencing our conditional love down here. When we truly see it all at that moment, it opens us beyond words in its understanding. And in your words above, as we go back over them, even after that moment, more and more expresses its truth to us. You didn’t happen to tell God that this world makes no sense, its a complete mess and has no purpose did you? 🀣 Thank you for sharing that inner journey too Erika, it is an awakening in leaps and bounds after that. We have climbed the hard climb up our mountain, you have reached its peak and the views go on forever. There are hard bits, but because of what you’ve been through it has changed you, no longer the rant and rave of fear but the reasoning of love…yours β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

          1. This is the wonderful thing I discovered over time step by step. That all of those hard times before we understand something are there to understand that something. And only because it was hard before, we can appreciate and accept that insight even more as a deeply learned experience with a sustainable effect. In that context I love this quote by Oliver Wendell Holmes: β€œA mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.” Thank you for supporting that stretch in all you do here, Mark πŸ’–

            1. And thank you for stretching my heart too dear lady, we all indeed share something quite profound in what we experience. May we never lose that ability to go beyond what was. Love and light to you also Erika, to that destination within β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

              1. The only thing is staying open for information and inspiration… and we do that. Here is to many more amazing breakthroughs!!!

  8. Aah yes. When we realize and feel the love that is universal, all encompassing and unconditional, there is no going back. Thank you for tuning in and being a part of this amazing cosmos of loving vibration and understanding. πŸ’πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’–

    1. No indeed Val, we are changed forever in understanding it. And an interesting thing that happened when I understood, just briefly (months, I think us humans relate differently, time slowed down, and designed to feel more intensely on that level), I had this feeling of ‘there was no going back’, I’m not like anybody else now. I could relate to only a few, most were still in their journey. But in hindsight it was just being in that ‘time and place’ and did resolve as I adjusted to it. I think that is what drew me to here in the blogs that I related to. And understand that is what unconditional love is, it opens to us individually on our path, resolves us in what we need to become in that wholeness and understand so that we can become that freedom and beauty in it all. Shoot, each time I speak to someone so much comes out. I think I may ramble a bit as I adjust to this…allow me to find me, these new shoes may take a little walking to adjust my soul into dear lady 🀣 But also, thank you for sharing you to help me see πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  9. You are on a roll Mark…. and as Danielle herself says, Spirit is guiding you along with Danielle, in sharing deeper the concepts of love and all the variations of what LOVE means… And as you so rightly say, we cannot fully comprehend truly that Love, until we learn to fully love ourselves.

    Sending much love your way Mark… ❀️

    1. Yes I seem to have ‘opened’ while dancing with Danielle 🀣 Must be that ‘let go’ in life where we just open and glide going through some things in those encounters πŸ˜‚
      And also a yes to ‘seeing’ differently, it must be time for me to understand something, I keep having an urge to open and release what I see and as I ‘feel ‘it, it takes me further. May we all dare our fears Sue, see the blessing in them, and smile with the light we understand within us. That self love is the opener, the key to dare this journey and find that beautiful truth within.
      That love returned in kind dear lady, may it share that bond within us and set us all free πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  10. Look at you just writing one after another Mark! Spirit is just using you beautifully!! ❀️
    Sometimes I feel the call of life is β€œmore”. Summoning life force…the call feels like more – becoming more. Not more in the physical sense but in the spiritual sense while residing in the physical ❀️ We will never get it done and we will never get it wrong – we just keep becoming.
    So happy to read your writings! Thank you!β€οΈπŸ™β€οΈ

    1. Yes Danielle, it does indeed seem to be speeding up. Bringing us into a more beautiful and powerful way of being. I haven’t done this many posts in quite a while, the flower of love is opening in us all. And for that I thank you, your reflecting love back at me in a way that I can see so much more. And I too am happy for those very words. Have a beautiful day, may its sunshine be that light within you shining out πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

  11. It’s beautiful and moving to give to others directly from experience. Only that which comes from the heart can reach the heart. Whenever someone compliments me on something to do with this, deep down I know that it’s really thanks to all the ways I failed and the grace that helped me get back up πŸ™‚ ❀️

    1. Grace is an amazing thing Samantha, to realize its truth in that very act of failing. I look at what I saw and understood, and I still shake my head in its perfection. It does everything, even those things we see as a failing, and gives us something to hold onto, a hand to stand back up…and a belief in that love of ourselves…through it. We do have amazing bursts of that unconditional love, move out of our own way and share from such an incredible place, so it is always there, we are just temporarily blinded…so that we can truly understand it and see…all of it.
      Again, take a bow kind lady, a great share, as only that love found can do β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

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