That Inner Chatter!
Danielle over at The Daily Addict triggered this post about chatter. And also about who is the ‘watcher’ in all this, where is its purpose. I’ll try an answer from what I’ve seen and felt from Spirit so far.
Those negative stories we tell ourselves are all built from our fear. They create those thoughts of ‘I’m not good enough, I can’t do this or that’ etc. Resolve the fear and the peace is unbelievable. The chatter stops.
Now remember, the fear does have a purpose. In that we all need to feel and understand that ‘lack’ in our lives so that when we finally see through our fear, it will give such a lifelong understanding that it all has a very profound purpose. Each step, each adventure, each trip and stumble is showing us ‘us’, so that we can understand it all, those many conditions we place on ourselves so that when we do step through that doorway we finally enter, we will ‘know’ what unconditional love really is. Fear gives us a purpose, to go beyond it and find that love and happiness we ever look for. Without it we’d just go fishing every day and lose that ability to seek that purpose.
Yes it is hard, and it leaves many scars emotionally and physical. But ask anyone who has been through something very powerful, a life threatening car crash, divorce, grief…it changes them. It changes others. They all affect us powerfully and the one thing that stands out eventually is the empathy and compassion it has taught us.
Now think about this…what is empathy and compassion? It is in understanding another…because of what ‘you’ have been through, and that ability to ‘feel’ for another is that step towards unconditional love in its understanding. And all of those things we go through in life will help you to understand it. Unconditional means just that, no more conditions that we place on our love…and project onto others. Going through those powerful things make us realise that those many things we hold against ourselves, are only built on our fear, and in understanding it, no longer matter. It is just our fears speaking. Understand your fear, and it loses its power. Completely.
Its tentacles go through into every aspect of our lives, drives us in all we do. Face it, understand it, and the silence is deafening. You will cheer, your heart will cheer, in the instant you see that purpose you will finally realise that it isn’t just the universe against you, but in fact the hand of love guiding you purposefully, lovingly, to find you within it. And in doing so, the chatter finally stops…well, the negative chatter does. Now it will just be a positive confirmation of the love you can now see in everything. You are no longer blind to it. That wall is gone, and the light it now allows in, makes it all just so beautifully, lovingly different.
And the ‘watcher’…we are the watcher’s, our higher selves, and also God. Spirit (from God), has been ‘nudging’ me only recently that the witness to everything is Spirit, from God, in all we do. He witness’s our complete lifetime journey. At first it seemed uncomfortable knowing I am being watched in all that I do (how can I sneak an extra chocolate now? 🤣). But its beauty is simply in the fact that the ‘truth’ that I am slowly becoming is that love I’m realising in each trip and stumble I experience. Yes there are some things that we are not proud of, but that is fear speaking. It too builds us. God witnesses that and also see’s our ‘intent’ to go beyond it. Yes, I had 60 goes at giving up smoking, and the intent was weak. But that weakness has a purpose, something we build on. Building with that courage and intent to become something much more, while seeking for that love and happiness. Polishing from what went before to arrive at its destination purposefully with a love once timid, but now in full flight.
Yes, I ask for forgiveness often, and I pray that my ‘intent’ is witnessed well too. And the chocolate?…well…ok, I admit, there’s still some chatter happening up there too 🤣❤️🙏
Our minds can seem like a radio talk show, droning on in the background, slipping us from the present.
Just as we breathe naturally, we glide from the here and now and our brains seem to transport us to past events, imagined scenarios, and other internal musings.
We talk to ourselves. We listen. And many times we believe what we say. We grappled with the phenomenon of the inner voice that intrudes on our silent.
The flow of words is so inextricable from our inner lives that it persists even in the face of reality.
Although the inner voice functions within us much of the time, it often leads to chatter of negative thoughts and emotions that turn our reality to negative imagery.
When this happens, we should remind ourselves that our bodily response to stress, or any given negative, is an adaptive reaction that will in the end helps us improve and become stronger for our continual cycle of life experiences.
Maybe that is our very own AI firing things at us so we can decipher the truth from ‘feeling’ it all by our hearts Linda. Each time we experience something it gives a range of what it thinks but our feelings fine tune that experience to a truth as time goes by.
It would give a reason for why we sometimes go off the rails into the wilderness, seemingly lost in our direction. I’ve been down a few of those, but they too guide us where ‘not’ to go.
And yes, that negative thrust that seems to be a constant theme at times, slowly builds us to a point where we have just had enough. Sick and tired of being bound by it we finally lash out, fall down, collapse at times, to finally break free.
I think all of that inside us is gradually building that beauty that we are. It’s a long hard haul, but to reach that diamond inside us needs it all. And anybody I ask at the end ‘would they change anything?’, all say no. Yes to it being hard, but no to any change. They ‘know’ it had to be exactly as it was to find that love and happiness they have ever looked for.
A beautiful reply kind lady, from a soul who has indeed been through so much and can see that light slowly building. It is ever in your poems Linda, that light you have found. Thank you for sharing you 🤗❤️🙏
Sometimes that fear and negative chatter can be hardwired into our psyches by parents, family, teachers, and peers during our most malleable and vulnerable years. Parents or guardians are often the first source of it. Wonderful and reflective post, Mark. It’s so difficult to unplug from the sources, then work on rewiring our brains. Lifelong work. Chocolate eases the way. 💝 It’s very important to reward ourselves with tastes, sights, sounds, and interactions that bring us pleasure. Here’s to fearless love, my dear friend. 😊🙏❤️
Indeed they do MM, those people we love and look up to in those early years ‘unintentionally’ pass on their fears and we react accordingly. And I say unintentionally simply because they haven’t resolved their own fears when we are born so just pass on who they are, they can’t be anything else but that. We too still have our fears well on into later life, spreading those bits of us unhealed. And it took me many years (and nudges by Spirit to look deeper), to dare me to go back into those moments in my life where I shut down, wall over my heart because of the pain, and see that the journey does have a purpose.
And you’ve got no idea how many times I got sat on my backside because I wouldn’t listen to Spirit and went my own way (who? Me?🤣). But when I finally saw it all in action I realised it is like all our other emotions. We cannot understand and appreciate one without experiencing the other. Happiness will not be truly appreciated unless we experience sadness too. So fear is those conditions we place on ourselves (and yes, on ourselves), so that in going through it all we will truly appreciate unconditional love when it arrives. And arrive it does if we dare to go through our fear.
Life does do it, but the core key is that moment in time when it occurs, to see with wise eyes what a child could not, and heal in its understanding. And yes, understanding anything we will let it go. Anything we do that leaves us unsure, confused or even from those doubts, will clear when we see exactly what drove them. And set us beautifully free. And the ‘let go’ and weight released after a lifetime of struggle? There are no words for that moment, the tears burst free, the heart lets go, and a burden untold breaks away in that understanding. And I swear to you, and this was something I used to laugh at…but in that moment you are ‘reborn’, the change is truly beyond words.
And also a big yes, as you see those many things that held in that fear, your chatter loses its ability to ‘fear’ you in all you do and the peace, or in fact the ‘chatter’ is now but something more powerful, more healing, and oh so more loving. Finally the dam has burst free. And yes, something never really thought of until it happens. You now can see, hear, touch, feel so much more. We don’t realise just how much that chatter binds them all, sidetracks us, and blocks so much.
It is a lifelong work, amongst those nice bits, to find us. But the power we find in a love unconditional is beyond words. All that I asked that have faced their fears and broke free all say the same thing. They’d do it again in an instant, simply because they can now see every step, every experience, is building this exact moment to find the truth of this unconditional love within us. Ever there, ever waiting for us to see beyond those conditions of fear, and with those new eyes, see and understand unconditional love for the first time. One cannot be done without the other. This journey is doing just that, even in its pain, or more so, because of it.
Thank you for the share MM, may there indeed be lots of way stations with a chocolate here and there too. Here indeed to that fearless love waiting within us 🤣❤️🙏
You reinforced the notion that if I hang in there, sometimes I will find the chocolate at the end!
Haha, there is always chocolate at the end Geoff. Many a thing we go through, many a chatter in its aftermath…but the one thing that every experience does is give us the wisdom from that empathy and compassion, in having gone through something. Even if we feel we haven’t beaten it yet, we will be surprised in what those experiences do. And chocolate? My gift for a day well done, even if I’ve stumbled and fallen. Maybe even an extra because I did 🤣❤️🙏
“Resolve the fear and the peace is unbelievable.” This is a simple thought yet loaded with layers of meaning. The more one starts to walk on that path, the old, crusty layers are allowed to slough away to reveal a new inner peace. It’s a walk that needs years, not hours or days to accomplish. it becomes a new lifestyle habit and not just a temporary relief.
Yes it can take a long time Tamara, to become a new version of us…but…I did in fact ‘see’ that fear in all its glory and it is only a simple thing, but a powerful one. It is in fact built from a child’s heart that blocks a very painful event in their lives and because a child’s wisdom is non existent at that age they just block it, wall it over and just never want to go there again. This in fact pushes it so far under that we even forget it…almost…until someone pokes that pain within us.
Reactions can go from silence to screams because of what it means. When I saw it I could see what it meant to me at that time…or any time. Once you see it, touch it, feel it, understand it…in an instant, I could see all my steps through life that it affected, the barriers I held, the relationships it affected, my attitudes, my needs, all because of it. This one thing is us and what we are. The one thing that means more than anything to us…and the one thing we react to so strongly. What is that thing? It is the one thing that hurts us more than anything…our love.
Yes, at times we do touch it from other events. That is life asking us to see and go beyond it. And definitely yes we do have aha moments. But its core meaning will not go until we dare to go inside and see, even if its from a screaming fight in a relationship that pushes us so deep that we touch it. In fact what normally happens is later in life we are so sick of this ‘thing’ that drags us hither and yon that we have just had enough and go looking. And you will ‘know’ when you see it. It is never an ‘unsure’ thing, we will see it for what it is.
In fact, once we do see and have had some time to digest it…we will see that it had a very profound purpose, it has in fact guided us so beautifully to realise that in that one moment we will step beyond this conditional world and now, finally, will be standing in that unconditional one. Why? Because our fear is the one thing that holds those ‘conditions’ over us. Those expectations we push on those around us are those conditions. From the most simple to some very strong ones. To such a point that once we see it and understand…everything changes. And I mean everything. We see from a much clearer place, touch on things that we no longer hold back from. Feel so much more, simply because the blockage is gone. Emotionally, and as time goes by, see that the emotional part has even blocked us physically.
It is now a new world, and because I have experienced it and understand, I can now see it in others. Mind you I did have a guided tour, but, and like all else in my life…I too had to fall in that hole to understand it. Experience is everything in this journey, we cannot ‘know’ anything until we do. And yes we can make mistakes in it. But in all the counselling I have done in guiding others to their fear, not once has it not been there. They have sworn to me black and blue that they love their parents, never a bad word spoken. They have no fear, life has been a dream…until we step closer and the layers peel away to show just how far we will go to not touch that pain. And very, very understandable. And should ever only be guided with a love…when they are ready. Of which I’m thankful Spirit only guides them my way when the are ready. Except one…I needed to be sat on my backside to understand something…and realised that they too needed a nudge as well.
Anyway, your journey will speak to you each step you take kind lady. You will know within you where you are…even if the paths sometimes leave us trembling and exhausted. I suppose it is like that love and happiness we ever look for. And yes, many layers of healing, belief in ourselves, and time to gather that wisdom. And if we are there and no longer look, we are home.
Thank you for the share kind lady, may it heal us all to go beyond it 🤗❤️🙏
Love this 🙏🏼 and well said.
Hey Rhapsody, glad to hear your voice kind lady. I pray you too are finding that beauty within, from a trip or a stumble or two, to guide you true. But besides that, I hope you are well my friend, and the world is keeping you in its light. Big hugs 🤗❤️🙏
🙏🏼💙thank you my friend. Hope all is well by you.
Firing on all cylinders kind lady, even if I’m using chocolate for petrol 🤣
Haha some things don’t change I see. Still got that sweet tooth eh? 🤣 Glad to hear it and that life is treating you well.
Ah alas, I am reducing the chocolate in my life. My body is not allowing many things kind lady from the allergic reaction from the steroids I take. And one day I’ll be on gruel and water 🤣
Hmmm, is this a jail down here? 😂 But a very nice one, flowers everywhere, birds and animals…and these lovely people I keep finding everywhere 👍😎
Thank you for the share Rhapsody, and glad to hear a heart dancing to a song too…that song of love 🤗❤️🙏
It’s always like new revelations coming through reading your messages my friend and I find myself reading between the lines. In a very good way and I wish I could sit with you for some time. 🤗
Yes, it would be good to sit and have a chat. It is amazing how life brings people together to touch our hearts in so many ways. And I find those ‘connections’ are to hear something that will just give a guidance or direction in life. Our higher selves want to hear something maybe, even if not fully understood yet. And I have got two comments from you. I am set to receive and only print a comment out after I approve them at the moment, but I have heard many are having problems even liking something let alone comment. And I have seen that some sites, if a comment has already been sent, it won’t allow a second comment until the first has been approved. Alas, I also might be just making too much noise 🤣❤️🙏
Oh good to know about the comments. Yes it took my like away and that’s when I thought something wasn’t quite right.
Oh and you make all the noise you want my dear friend. 😘
Haha, ok then. I’ll see if I can resort to a moderate hum then 🤣❤️🙏
Haha 🤣
That negative chatter causes so much harm for us. It certainly is something I need to work on. I agree it’s all about fear. I think we all need to have unconditional love and forgiveness for ourselves. We practice it for others, but not for ourselves. Self-talk and understanding our fears are so important in stopping this negative chatter. Thank you, Mark, for reminding us that we are deserving and so much more than we think we are.
Yes indeed kind lady. Finding that inner love of ourselves changes everything. But it is a journey Michele, in finding who we are. That ability to measure ourselves and know we need more, so go looking for it. And in there is a beauty so beautiful and profound after testing ourselves in so many ways. And also, only then will we appreciate our journey so much more…and ourselves in having that courage. Thank you for the share my friend, may you adventure down that path and find the beauty of its truth…your hearts truth 🤗❤️🙏
A comment from my lovely friend Ginger…
Letting go of our fears is quite daunting, to say the least. It takes a lot of patience. We live in a world where we get things almost instantly. We’ve forgotten how to think things through and how to take a slow and steady approach to things that really matter. It’s not going to be delivered by Amazon or DoorDash!
You know, “if at first you don’t succeed……….!” I’m still trying to get my act together. Just when I thought I was making good progress I got stopped cold and my life has been turned upside down again.
Nice to receive a post from you. I still can’t send a comment through normal channels. Hope you are well and happy and content.
ginger🦋
Going well thank you Ginger. And yes, it is a daunting journey kind lady, so many things to face. And of course the world gives us many things to sidetrack us. Who wants to face a fear. But as you said, slowly those things pay us a visit, in between the busyness of life of those DoorDash and Amazon visits, so we can dare to see where our happiness does lay. The one thing that never leaves us, that wanting to be happy. Oh to have it delivered by a service…but alas, it would never be appreciated.
And I feel for you my friend, you of all people deserve it by delivery. You feel like your on top of it all, in a good spot…to suddenly have another event stop on your doorstep. Some days it feels like it never ends. But thankfully, from what I’ve touched, beyond it all, is something very beautiful, heartfelt, and knowing it all has a great purpose.
Have courage kind lady. Much love from me and a hug or two for on those quiet days. Take care 🤗❤️🙏