Finding You!
January 14, 2022
You have a friend who can get upset or angry and bitter at times, feeling the world on their shoulders as they tend to get upset and judgemental at what seems to you to just be things that don’t really matter. Your interactions become a bit restricted because of this and you don’t really want to be in such a place of negativity but you have been together for a long time and don’t want to lose those fun things that you do share and the connection you have made over that time.
One day you go back to their parents place and are shocked to see their parents do those same things to them, much anger and accusing fingers of judgement at just little things that you can now see in your friend, an inability to show love and compassion and a hardness in relating to others. You finally see why your friend has acted as they do, as it is all they know from their parents. Your heart goes out to them, you have much empathy and compassion as you finally understand what they have been through and the pain and hurt that it causes themselves and others in all that they are.
Now do that for you…❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
A helpful revealing for us all. Thank you Mark 💕. There is so much more to understand when we take the time to listen and see with an open heart and mind.
Thank you Val, and yes, something we will all learn down here and a little thing called patience. And finally acknowledging that beauty has always been there but needing to stumble first to appreciate it 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
We are so hard on ourselves. I too have found that once we learn to accept and love ourselves with all our flaws we are able to relate so much better to others. This is a great post Mark because it’s something we don’t usually acknowledge and really need to work on. Thank you! xo
And thank you kind lady, your words are very wise. And I can hear that love in your journey, you have dared to look and discover those things you feared. A greater love you will not find xo 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
We are so often kinder to those around us and less to ourselves.
It is difficult to see, simply because we feel we are not good enough, can’t do this or that, or lacking in our belief in ourselves in some way…and because of that we don’t want others to see so we jam it down hard, cover it over and after a lifetime it is well hidden, even from ourselves sometimes. But love wants us to shine so it will keep gently…ok, sometimes not so gentle but hey, we can be a little obstinate sometimes 🤣…nudge us by stirring it up so that we can confront this part of us that upsets so easily, and heal the lie that it is. (It is in fact a misconception that as a child we didn’t know how to handle and assumed it was us that was the problem, why else are we treated that way unless it was us). And once found and understood this beautiful light goes on in our hearts, those walls we had built around it fall away, and a relief like nothing else sets us free…and it loses its power over us, all from understand this one thing. May your lie be the beauty that it is dear lady, because once seen you will understand that it is in fact all of your journey, all of your trips and stumbles that make you…you. You will look back and see that it all is needed to build you exactly as you are…and begin to love you because of that very understanding. Have a beautiful day young lady, may it be full of what you are…it is enough indeed ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Ooh, that last line is a killer, Mark😀. Well played! And I am trying. Honestly trying . . . Happy New Year to you!
Thank you Kristine, it is just to show how much we block ourselves from our own heart. We can see everyone else’s pain but are afraid to, and dare not, see our own…but it is there that our freedom lays, that love and happiness is right behind that understanding within ourselves. All that is needed is to find what actions from others upset us the most in our relationships, in how it makes you feel…and follow it back to those you loved and looked up to as they raised you up through childhood. That is the key, even though many cannot. They block it so hard that it blinds them by that fear. Dig dear lady, it is waving a red flag…to set you free. And a Happy New Year to you too, I hope your year is full of that love found 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
I love this ♥️thank you 🎁
Hey dear lady, and thank you. You looked and found it within…such a simple thing, but so, so profound ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
A beautiful reminder Mark… to hold a loving space for our loved ones, seeing the pattern of anger and not taking anything on.
As we must cleanse ourselves of our own patterns of behaviour, being open to understand the reason and intending to be real and honest about our own feelings. Thankyou Mark, appreciate so much your loving presence with us all, sending love down under❤️
Hey dear lady, a lovely icon without the dreaded anonymous tag 🤣
And yes, being able to see past those things we all must go through and having empathy and understanding for that path 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Yes I’m discovering ways to submit from myself🙄 The only challenging thing left though is not to fall into rescuing your loved one, realising it’s there experience to remember! It’s when they can’t change that sometimes we must leave a relationship.
Just to see us in them, and of course support them at those difficult times. And that is a very interesting line Barbara, when sometimes it is time to leave as part of that learning. The final love is to love ourselves, that love that we ever struggle with. Great share dear lady, thank you 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Great piece!
Thank you kind lady, I hope a found heart has been obtained 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
I hope you don’t mind my sharing that just a few weeks ago I experienced a spontaneous deeply profound healing of my heart. Deep inner forgiveness. (I blogged about it).
Not at all dear lady, those moments are always different for each of us and a very, very personal and loving moment to ‘see’ those things within us 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
I’ve dropped over and read a few posts, which I might add are from a beautiful place found. Can you let me know the name of that particular post please. Thank you 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Lovely advice
Thank you Ananda, facing us is the most difficult but also the most beautiful when it sets us free ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Mark, this is beautiful! We must do this for ourselves. What a beautiful illustration of self-love and healing. 💕🙏🏻☀️🤗
It is a magnificent journey dear lady, as hard as it is. But as much as we can’t see the forest for the tree’s in the beginning our view becomes wider and wider as we understand. And the view at the end is from an incredible mountain top indeed…and the view and understanding go on forever. Thank you for sharing dear lady, just remember to listen to the birds as you walk that path in the forest, they too have much beauty to share 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
It really is, Mark! I love your wisdom and heart ❤️. I will continue to listen to all of nature. It has such beautiful messages! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🌲☀️ 🐦 🦋
It’s really true, Mark! We must do this for ourselves! Thank you for this reminder 💕🤗
We are a little blinkered in the beginning dear lady but slowly that light is opened by our experiences to set us free. Thank you for sharing 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋