A very interesting thing happened to me on my journey…once I understood my fears, the judgement stopped. Not because others had stopped judging me, but because I had stopped judging myself in those fears. And then I began to see in them where my judgement of myself was in me. And once we stand in His love, we let go, and no longer attract that which is no longer us. So His love we find in ourselves protects us naturally.

When He gave me that message of ‘I am the giver of life’, all I could feel was to ‘let go’…but I was dying on my kitchen floor, how could I let go, I was trying to live. But He wanted me to trust that His love is there, always. In this life we are too busy ‘hanging on’ to everything, especially our fears. But remember, this has a great purpose so that we can understand our conditional love and in doing so will eventually understand and see exactly what unconditional love truly is…like experiencing sadness truly gives an appreciation of happiness when we experience that, one is needed to truly understand the other.

It all comes together so perfectly, so naturally…so unconditionally. Heal yourself and you will heal the world…simply by understanding it…understanding yourself, the very thing we avoid in our fears…is the key to it all โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

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    1. Why thank you MM, they are very appreciated. Just went quiet for a bit, my computer spat the dummy…again, and I’m on the hunt for a new car. I can’t find a Lamborghini for $5,000, and horses eat too much. Mind you, they’d be cheaper than petrol ๐Ÿคฃ Thank you, lots of love and light coming your way too, have a great day ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

        1. Thank you kind lady, it will be gratefully appreciated, thank you ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

    1. Thank you Brooke, love and light to you also kind lady. And may you find that love even at life’s worst. In fact you are always at unconditional love closest in those times as it shakes our grip on our fears more and allows that light of understanding to enter ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

    1. Thank you Liza, He gave me something very profoundly beautiful…in so many ways. I couldn’t see past my pain for a long, long time, but that has a great purpose…so that we will see and understand His unconditional love beyond it…by understanding ourselves. Thank you for sharing kind lady ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

  1. This is the exact Lesson I am learning now, Mark. I was brought to a place where I was completely shattered and in that place I was shown how the walls I myself built would be coming down. And down they came. It was the most terrifying part of my Journey yet I have partaken of. To face those fears and know how they have been hidden all the whilst mourning for a loss so completely left me empty, unsure of anything, and not even knowing if I could survive this experience. Yet coming out on the other side, I stand clean, vulnerable, and a different woman than when I was three months ago. Now as I flow with Divinity letting go of the fears, I learn how to fly as I was meant to.

    LOVED this post, Mark!!! Very timely for me! Bless you for being such a light in this world. Thank you! xoxo

    1. It is indeed a very confronting moment Amy, to finally dare to see past that wall inside us and truly see what it is built on. But it is that moment that we will understand and it will set us free.
      In fact, it is such a profound moment that the weight lift leaves us almost floating for days, weeks and even months afterwards. Not only will it do that but you will notice something strange in just doing simple things…like walking or cleaning your teeth. It will feel a bit awkward, and simply because we have spent a lifetime of ‘holding ourselves’, holding our muscles and the tension of who we are, on guard to those fears.
      But now you have let go and you in fact will now learn to walk again…but this time it will be your walk, not fears walk. Clean your teeth, sing a song, take a picture…all your way and not fears way. You have what they affectionately call a rebirth, it will change you inside and out, to a much more relaxed and smoother journey kind lady. And the smile in your heart that will grow bigger and brighter can be seen on the outside too. Others won’t know why but they will see that you have changed, become something that will niggle at them because they can’t see it but your inner power, that strength of love you have let open into you, into your heart, glows like nothing else dear lady.
      Oh, I almost forgot to mention, you will attract on that level too. Those beautiful pictures where you can get close to animals and birds…they will trust you so much more they will almost sit on you to be close to this very trusting energy of love. Enjoy the journey kind lady, God has given you a gift in this world to find Him, and as hard as it was, all that I ask about their journey all say they would do it again in an instant because they can now see that each and every step is truly that path to find this moment to set you free and stand in the truth of that love and happiness you have ever looked for ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

      1. Your words came to fruition yesterday, Mark, for what unfolded had me inwardly saying wowowowowowowow! First, barn swallows flying very low to grass getting insects, flew at dizzying speeds and in so doing I saw the grasses transform into streams of energy, that had me feeling dizzy. The grasses actually transformed into liquid like streams of energy! Then they repeatedly flew towards me, seemed to stop for a mere second in flight in front of me, say something, and then continued their “patterned” flights. I stood there for a long time just watching just transfixed.

        Hours later that evening I went to bring in the sugar feeders and in so doing, my friend the Yellowjacket came for one last drink. I respectfully told him I’ll wait for you, no worries, and right in front of my face, he drank deeply. When done, he flew in front of my face, said thank you, and then went back to his home. That has been happening almost every evening. What was new is the following:

        A young doe who frequents our backyard every evening to munch on the birdseed around other feeders was last evening about 20 feet from the sugar feeders, a different location in our backyard. Instead of leaping away, she stood her ground, looked directly into my eyes and we began to “talk”. She told me the dog two doors down scares her and I reassured her she was completely safe here, that nothing would harm her while on our property. I walked back and forth twice to collect all the sugar feeders and still she stood trustingly. Wow!!

        And then! An Oriole came flying in for one last snack on the grape jelly and I had to tell her sorry, I’m closing up for the night. At first she was cross at me, but then she said goodnight after I told her goodnight and that I would see her tomorrow morning. She then flew off.

        I came into the house with stars in my eyes. I told hubby what just transpired. So in regaling this tale to you, what is coming forth for me while I’m with my camera, only God knows but this I know. It’s going to be phenomenal. I am completely wowed over! I’ve yet to feel any “real” and “lasting” joy but I do feel a glow and Mother’s Creatures are responding in like kind. OH!!! And then there was Mr. Blackie, one of the feral barn cats. He let me pick him up last evening, and I snuggled him tightly and I mean tightly. He went limp and snuggled into me. None of my cats will do this and for a feral cat to just calmly snuggle in my embrace as I hold him next to my heart, blows me away. Another wow!!!

        I’ve begun a new chapter in my adventures. How exciting!!! ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒˆ

        1. Enjoy this gift of love kind lady. It is a very beautiful and profound moment, something that your heart will now hold forever. And with all you meet, especially the animals. It is good to hear it is already in action, enjoy the journey my friend. I look forward to more of what is now beginning ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

  2. Yes! Your last paragraph is absolutely the key: by healing ourselves, by walking into (instead away from our fears), we also assist others in healing โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน the light in me honors the light in you ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผโ™ฅ๏ธ

    1. Thank you Tiffany, it is indeed in facing our fears that free us from the blindfold of love that our fears are. Our journey chips away at it, slowly opening that covered heart so more and more of love’s light is allowed in. And yes, that light in me honors the light in you, may our journey ever be so โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

  3. When we fully realiseโ€ฆ and this means for me to feel it rather than intellectually sense it, we can indeed see that the judgement from others is their story! Rather than it being helpful to our growth as a mirror too. Hopefully realising this helps us stop judging ourselfโ€ฆ still working on this bit๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฃ Thankyou as always for sharing your journey in a beautiful way I can understand๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿฅฐ much love mark๐Ÿ™๐Ÿคฉ

    1. It is others story and the amazing thing is…it will only affect us if we still have our fears in place. We are still on guard to any hurt so we are ‘ready to go’ at anything we feel is aimed at us. But…when we truly understand our fears, we let them go. Do you remember my comment where when we get a new job or are just learning to drive a car…we are nervous, unsure, not confident as we are afraid of our ability to do these things, we don’t understand them yet. But if I come back to you in 6 months time, you are cruising easily…because you now understand them. Understand our fears…and we will let them go…and…no longer ‘react’ to anything said to us. Another’s judgement is just water off a ducks back…because we now understand us and will know it is only their story and what ‘they’ feel about something. The day I saw and understood my fear…the weight I let go was incredible…AND…I no longer react to anything from another. I share instead of holding on. And yes, while ever we hold our fear…something is mirrored back to us because we react. It is a lifelong journey kind lady, but that has a great purpose. The more we have to work at something the greater the appreciation of what we have achieved within it. On the day we see the beauty of this understanding of ourselves we will see that it has all been for a very profound purpose, it is teaching us a love…our love, a very unconditional love. Much love to you also Barbara, it has been a long hard path but within it you are going to find something very beautiful…that love and happiness you have ever looked for ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

  4. We have to dig through all the dirt piled upon us find our true nature and our true self, deserving of safety, self-care, and self-respect. A beautiful epiphany and post, Mark. So glad that you are here to share the love! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฉต

    1. It is my pleasure to share what I found kind lady. And yes, our journey does take much digging to find our ‘self’ within it. And it may not be everyone’s path, but that love within it will touch us all, in our own way, so that we can understand us within it๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

    1. Thank you Val, all in that realization of a profound self love beyond those fears ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

  5. When judgment stops: so profound and life altering, isn’t it? Beautifully said. (I wish it for everyone. Maybe without the coming close to physical death part). Healing is truly an inside job!

    1. Thank you kind lady. And indeed in that moment of understanding, it opens something very profound. A realization that it does have a great purpose, a very beautiful one. And yes, also preferably done without the dying bit ๐Ÿคฃ, even though, and so well said, that it is indeed an inside job ๐Ÿ˜‚. Thank you for sharing ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

    1. Thank you Pam, He shared something very profound. To make me realize I was holding on to that ‘conditional’ love too tightly in my fear. I was right next to death and I had no power over it…so I let it go…and lived. Here I am telling everyone that we ever, in our fears, push people away by holding tightly to those fears. And here I am pushing life away ๐Ÿคฃ. I learned something very, very profound that day, in more ways than one. Thank you for sharing kind lady, may your lessons be a little more gentle in their understanding ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

  6. I was amazed at how many layers of lies and negativity I had internalized from my youth, and how difficult it was to let them go, fearing that what I might find below those lies would be worse. Instead I found inner beauty and inner peace. I look back and see how those fears let me sit stewing in my juices for so long, yet I’m so very grateful for the short time (relative to the years I stayed with my fears) where I feel free from those burdens. Amazing how our fears block us from being able to experience beauty and grace within ourselves, and it is exactly what we need to heal and to live life!

    1. It is a very profound journey Tamara, finally understanding that we need the experiences of one side so that we will appreciate the other side. My ‘one side’ I had still been ‘holding on’ to life too tightly. Yes, it was a frightening moment, as most of life can be in many ways…but the main culprit is those fears. And we do need those fears as they give us an experience we don’t want, so we try to go beyond them. Otherwise we would just ho hum and give them no thought. We want that love and happiness, it is ever in our hearts so we then try to go beyond those fears and attain that beauty. To then appreciate what we have dared, what we have gained in courage, empathy, compassion and love to arrive at such a beautiful and profound place in our hearts. You have dared that path kind lady, achieved something so beautifully created, even if through such a painful journey. Take a bow kind lady, you have removed those judgements within and now share your journey and guide others beyond theirs. A greater love you cannot share ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

  7. A profound lesson in learning to LIVE is learning to LET GO!.. But our whole existence within this Matrix of which we have been so programmed from birth to BE.. is that if we have nothing, we are worthless… So we hang onto everything… both externally and internally….
    We hold on, not understanding what it is to surrender completely, to TRUST that which is invisible, that which we cannot See, to trust our inner intuition, to trust in God, to Trust in our Higher selves..
    And most of all to Trust in ourselves… As we learn what unconditional means within all its forms… As we love ourselves enough to let go and allow ourselves to BE… That which Will BE…

    We are our own worst critics… and we all pass judgement upon ourselves.. Once we learn to love completely and unconditionally.. Judgement no longer matters.. For we love no matter what..

    Another great post full of wisdom Mark… And thank you for helping me over the years to SEE myself much more clearly as I learnt to love myself for ME.. the I AM of who I AM.. ๐Ÿ™‚ โค๏ธ โค๏ธ โค๏ธ

    1. Thank you for your words Sue, this journey is going exactly as you have said. To find that inner realization that we hold so much only to find it is that ‘let go and trust’ is that destination we seek.
      Initially it can feel very scary, simply because, as you said, we are taught all of these things so that we do hold, and do rely on this world. But it isn’t until we finally realize this is not the way to find that love and happiness we seek. And it isn’t until we dare to go beyond it that our answer begins to shine its light. It knows we are coming away from the old and are ready for the new, to trust and stand in that love we have finally found. Breaking away from something that no longer fits what we are becoming.
      And yes, a world of judgement is relevant to see and understand our fears…so that we will understand to move beyond them because that love and happiness is not there but through them in their understanding. The unknown is ever those things that hold us fixed, worrying us in that not knowing. Look further into them and they become more known and lose their power over us.
      Glad to see a heart free kind lady, an understanding heart where you can ‘just be’ in your garden, in your life, and free of it all. That love in your hands now energizes beautifully all around Sue, to give from what you have become.
      Thank you for also being that teacher in that understanding found dearlady ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

      1. Thank you Mark that comment was profound in itself.

        It took a long while to find ME.. lol and like what I found..
        And I dare say there are still bits of me yet to discover lurking deeper yet..
        But once we live in that acceptance of who we are, we learn to let go of who we were… x ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿค—โœจ๏ธ๐Ÿ™

        1. Thank you Sue. And yes it takes much time to go through it all and finally appreciate what we have found…and what we have let go ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

    1. And thank you Samantha, your journey was a great teaching as well. To feel its depth is to realize ourselves even more. Thank you for sharing something that took great courage, but in doing so also found a great love ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

    1. We hold so much Cindy, but slowly we get wiser, become more understanding and break through into those parts that create that empathy and compassion within us. Hard yes, but in the end truly appreciated for where it has taken us. Thank you for sharing kind lady ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

  8. I love this Mark – the layers that melt away and show usโ€ฆus. Itโ€™s the great cosmic joke or irony โ€œ what you are looking for is where you are looking from โ€œ the knife that canโ€™t cut itself – itโ€™s all us.
    The answers do lie in those fears. And the admissions- even more important the AWARENESS of them.
    I loved learning not to judge – myself – and the the rest of the world. And nope the world didnโ€™t change – I did.
    So much more to uncover- but patience with myselfโ€ฆand understanding that I can lean into the uncomfortable and come out the other side with real fruits of self – is priceless.
    Thank you for walking me through these last two years and making it possible for me to learn the love of self. ๐Ÿ™โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

    1. Beautiful reply Danielle, the wisdom of that love itself. It is ever teaching us, of itself, within us. The more I experience the more open it becomes, as I do too. I made a comment on another post, Karla who is going through a very difficult time with a rare cancer, let me see her journey in her posts that we are all teachers. Unique teachers of that love as we go through difficult times and that empathy and compassion found in those experiences is helping others on their journey too. It needs no input from outside as it is ‘unconditional’…and as we go through it all, we too reach that place and become as it is too.
      And my pleasure to share that love kind lady, it made me what I am. How can I not share what it shared with me. Thank you for your kind words and love ‘teacher’, I also learned much from you. Thank you! ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™

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