This is a reply to a post that Spirit has asked me to put up. And the posts themselves are indeed a mothers worst nightmare. To understand this post fully, go to this young ladies three posts and read them in order Chapter 24 , Chapter 25 and Chapter 26 . Then come back and read this post. It may feel a little confronting…but it is a truth…and as hard as it may be, you cannot build love without it ❤️🙏🏽
That is the one thing that is difficult…but is the making of us. We cannot develop empathy, compassion and love without going through something painful. We have to experience it to ‘know’ it truly. But a parent wants to protect that innocence, keep its truth and keep them from this worlds pain. But without those opposites in our emotions we can’t feel its truth, won’t understand that it is in going through and experiencing sadness, that gives us a much more powerful understanding and appreciation of happiness when it arrives, and on through all our emotions.
You will know my friend, because of your journey of what I speak. I can feel you from the rawness touched, the tears untold, of where you words are delivered. You have already touched so much in your heart, let alone this. But it was preparing you…and yes there are many other ways of experiencing life so that those extremes are not needed…or are they. It is that being taken to those extremes that pushes us out of our ‘safety’ zones, tried and true and therefore ‘known’ places. But we won’t move to that one place inside us if we don’t, that fear in our hearts that ‘unintentionally’ is placed into those young lives, simply because we cannot see inside them, the reactions to so many things. They want to be loved so will say yes when a no is needed, and so that we can see where their hearts are. They are afraid to lose that love, that connection that they need from how they have been raised. In all the healing that I’ve done, the one thing that stood out above all else…we are all in fear, and as a parent we unintentionally pass those on…simply because we don’t even understand what they are at the time we bring our children into the world. So how can we teach them the right from wrong within those fears when we don’t understand them ourselves.
And on it goes down the generations…but it all has a very beautiful purpose. This journey IS going to test us to finally step through those fears, just as you have, and become that truth of love inside you. The moment you understand your fear you suddenly understand that after a lifetime of so much conditional love we place on ourselves…it allows us to truly understand unconditional love when it arrives. And it will, exactly as it is meant to. I can describe many things to you, but until you experience them we don’t truly understand. And your little girl is going to go through many of these, but the only thing that will be the most powerful thing you can do, is tell her the truth. Even if it feels a horrible thing to say, they KNOW you are being honest , and of all things it is that they trust, hurting or not.
Truth builds trust and love. Whenever you speak the truth of something to one another it builds trust. Be that trust so that if the need ever arises the first person she will want to speak to will be that person she loves the most. You. Then you can help and protect her in the only way that truly has meaning. For you both.
This life takes us down many painful roads, but as you said, you can’t protect her from them all…but you will teach her the path to trust…honesty…empathy…compassion…and the love that they all build. Without those many emotional roads, there is nothing to build. Yes, it is hard…for you both. And after your journey it will test so much, touch many parts within yourself in doing this…because that is what love is, that building between people regardless of the journey. Trust you, so you can trust her. Love you, so you can love her. Show her the journey by being that love. And yes, you may have not done that well in the beginning…but that is irrelevant. It is what you have become because of it. Be that love you have found within you…and set her free. And never be defeated by it, she has a long way to go to find herself. Look at how long it took you. Breeeeathe, and just be you, the you that you have found. It can be too easy to fall back into stressful ways…but that then is what you will give her.
Be the mother you always wanted, now be that for her…and you. For you both, have a Happy New Year, a delight in what is there, now, for you both. And begin to lay that groundwork of what you truly want it to be.
I didn’t understand when Spirit asked me to wait until the first week of January. Now I do as you have added Chapter 26 since I wrote this above and it gives a greater understanding of that road you traveled Samantha. It can be such a cruel road and you have ‘seen’ it truly, it’s depth…on both sides, has taken you from your world out beyond what you thought was even endurable. But it is those that is the making of us, stretching us out beyond that safety of what I spoke, to ask us ‘another step’, another thought so much deeper…and all to see who we really are, that ‘dark night of the soul’ where we finally do meet ourselves and let go those fears. The day before this all happened is now another world, another place and time. But in its wisdom you have truly seen and let go so much, understood that what was then truly cannot be matched with now, and allowing you to see with an empathy, love and compassion you never thought to ever feel. Yes, it is all a world of so many conditions ‘back then’, but now…you touch a love finally uncovered, an understanding of yourself in going through such a terrible time, you and your daughter, that will leave a mark. And that mark of wisdom has touched you both. You will think you are strong enough, but fear for your daughter of such a path so young tests us like nothing else. And it will leave a trail, it cannot do otherwise, for you both. But in any that you meet who have traveled something so shattering, it lifts them beyond what is normal and will in fact give them a new path, one of a love well beyond the seeming years they are and become a healer of that love, just in being themselves. Even as you will. In attesting it here you are helping others. And yes, she is still so young and may have many ‘issues’ in dealing with life holding them. But that pathway has a love all its own. And in experiencing it, building something more profound.
As for him. In all I have felt in any on that road, they may block and block it within themselves, but like all else that only attracts it all the more. And I’m not talking about what they do, but what they ‘feel’ inside because of it. Trust me, that ‘dark night of the soul’ goes on for as long as they are there. It is reinforced while ever they refuse to step beyond it, they hold that pain of worth and no self love until they do. This may not give peace to others because of their own pain, but it isn’t until they find their own worth again within that path, that it too is let go and releases them. The pain you feel, he too is feeling his own, his path to find himself. Like you it is built on those fears and doubts and cannot be avoided. We all choose our paths to find us, up there as well as down here. As above, so below. It all has a purpose, a very profound purpose.
Love will, and can only find that love within us, ever drawing us to find that love and happiness from birth…and if it means showing us ‘us’ in all we do, then it shall. It wants us to be that unconditional love but we cannot see this until we feel and understand conditional love, all those things we experience and feel ‘down here’. It is all those ‘opposite’ things that teach us. To know and appreciate happiness, is only when we experience sadness too…or with what can we compare it to, and feel and appreciate that worth. And on through so much in life. And when we touch, as you now have, those things that push us beyond our fears, it gladly replaces it with that love we have found in enduring it. The day I finally faced that terror of terrors (for me), and saw what it was, what I had to endure, what path I had taken to understand it…I was glad, overjoyed and would gladly have done it again, even those bad bits endured. Because inside it all is a path, your path to reach a beauty that is beyond words. And when you finally see it…you will understand that it all had to happen exactly as it has, each step a teacher, a very profoundly beautiful teacher.
This world is a hard road Samantha, but it truly wants us to find something very powerful and beautiful within us all. There is a purpose on this road and each step is building that inside us. That man has created his journey, and you have created yours. And yes, it is for both to find that love. Exactly as they need by being those opposites all the world around so that others can see within those paths. Many, many years ago one of the first things Spirit said to me was…we know everything, but we do not ‘know’ it. We must experience it all so that by being down on this conditional world we will finally, truly understand His love, His unconditional love. Or why else would we be here. This world and His world are opposites, we are experiencing one to truly know the other, experiencing our conditional love to finally see, feel and appreciate His unconditional love when we arrive. And that too I have touched…there are no words for something so beautifully profound, but you will be glad of all that you have experienced in that one moment of understanding.
Love and light for you all Samantha, and I hope this builds a bridge for you and your daughter, one where you can always meet in the middle…and sometimes just rest and watch the water go by…and feel it too has a purpose…an unconditional purpose ❤️🙏🏽