As children, those we love and look up to pass on to us all we know, those beliefs, wisdom, habits…and unintentionally…their fears.
And through it all, those years of us being raised we ingrain those fears, unsure of what they are but building many doubts because we cannot understand them, and after years upon years it becomes us.
Always chaining us to whatever we do. A heart tested but our love never truly found because of that wall we build to protect it from those doubts.
But…without doubt, how can we ever appreciate what we do when one day we dare them, find courage to challenge them…and beat them.
And in doing so break free from their prison and can finally love us, believe truly in us because we did dare them.
Simply because we dare to look at ourselves, to test those doubts, afraid that they might be true so ever struggle with that moment.
That child’s eyes…and heart…inside us…IS the one that ever avoids that moment. We don’t want to see that a doubt could be true.
And while ever it stays unknown, it will be that doubt.
While ever we hold it at bay, it cannot be understood.
Bring it closer, dare to hold it in your light.
See it for what it is, and it will be understood.
Understand it and you will see it is indeed held by a frightened child…even though they are now adult.
What do you say to a frightened child?
You calm them because you ‘know’ the fear is unfounded because it isn’t being seen clearly.
How can you help them see that it is unfounded?
You explain it to them in a way they can understand.
How…and then, how to give them that courage to face it?
You go with them through it, share those moments in heart and mind. Get them to express what they feel and why so that they can truly see and understand.
And like any map you explain, many pathways are there but only one will take us to our destination.
And this destination is…love…ours. The one we didn’t understand because we were afraid to see it.
And in that understanding you will see a light come on in their eyes, an understanding light.
And a freedom to that child in your heart, and a let go so that you can finally remove that separation…and be just you…a completion, so that you can see and appreciate what you have now become.
You cannot see and understand the ‘one’, until you experience and feel that separation.
And like any of those beautiful jigsaws in our lives, we must understand them all individually first…anger, happiness, doubt, and on through them all so that we can create that ‘one’, become that ‘one’ love that is a part of us all. To stand back and finally see that it wasn’t just those individual pieces but what it built in completing them.
It doesn’t matter what color you are, what intentions you hold or what fear sings in your blood.
Your heart ‘knows’ what is right, you just have to ask yourself its truth. Believe what it is asking you to see.
But first the doubt…so that we will dare to see that love.
God’s love ❤️ 🙏🏽
Very Important Note: My mention of ‘walking them through their fears’ is for that child within us adults. A real child does not have the ‘life’ experiences yet to understand their fears. Now don’t get me wrong, it is very important to give your child permission to be able to talk about things, especially their fears…but…you cannot force it, they will not understand. In fact it can be detrimental because they will feel that they have failed somehow in not understanding and compound an already confusing thing called life that they go through. Us adults already struggle, so a child would be almost lost trying to understand. And ‘life’ is already at a pace that it can be slowly understood and bring about those changes as they have the courage to face those many aspects that they are. We are their support system for this journey…and yes, we wobble…often. But you have to laugh (and appreciate), when they say something…and teach us ❤️