Furniture Packs Have Feelings Too!
It is an interesting thing that fear we hold, and for something that controls so much of our lives it is something just built from a child. For all those inner walls that we build ‘back then’ are only a lack of understanding. Seriously, once you understand it or anything for that matter, it loses its fear for you.
Try it. You get one of those furniture packs…a simple chair for instance…it frustrates you, it can be so difficult to put together, but you understand that ‘this goes with that’ etc. We can get more serious with say a cupboard pack, it tests us a bit more and we can get a bit testy with this one and it will take a bit longer, a weekend or two to understand its ‘five easy steps’….but we understand that it is a beginning and an end. And we will do it, and also because if we read the fine print it says…’This product has been very carefully put together for your enjoyment!’. Hey, what more could we want 😀
But people, wow, they are the hardest to understand. There is a beginning but which bits go where. How can someone think like that, hurt like that, attack like that? Are they seriously wanting me to do that. I can’t relate to all these button pushing, mind wrenching, heart crunching creatures that project themselves in everything that they do.
Hey, I’m glad I don’t do that…I’m just an ordinary me!
But they too we understand eventually, and mostly accept them for all their quirks even though we avoid one or two just to be safe.
But us…yes us. What is it that we don’t understand about ourselves? Never seem to go beyond that fear that lurks at every corner, on guard for its tentacles that seem to appear out of nowhere.
I’ll give you a hint…that child that felt terrified by the way it was treated, that rejection, the pain of not being loved…didn’t know what to do. Could only realise that it must be them, something wrong with who they are…and in that time could only face it by not facing it, covering it over so its pain would no longer hurt so badly and slowly grow into that covering. Not wanting anyone to see that they have this ‘thing’ wrong with them, become someone else than what they truly are, a mask for the world so it cannot see what is underneath even as it too pokes and prods that tenderness that always seems to be in great pain.
And we do it so well that eventually we ‘mask’ like its second nature and even believe that is now us. But we now don’t know why we do this, we have done this living so well of forgetting and denying that hurt that it is now just the actions that we are fearful of. The ‘why’ is barely remembered, if at all.
This is your furniture pack.
Yes, it’s frustrating. And yes, many the time I’ve thrown the screwdriver away in disgust. But the instructions said it was so easy. Five stupid steps and it was done!
Ok, I’ve taken a deep breath, picked up my screwdriver, thrown the 4lb hammer away so that I ‘don’t’ use it instead, and attempt number 25 of reading those five easy steps. Trust me, if you do persevere, do believe in yourself, do think that you can do this…you will. And yes, it does say at step one to undo the strapping first…in our case the emotional ones that bind it. So now you ‘can’ use the screwdriver properly, just take your time. You have your whole life to achieve something wonderful. You know that moment, the one where you tighten the last screw and stand back and finally see it all put together like the magic packs that they are. (ok, I had a yellow bit once where it should have been red 😂).
And you will…if you face it. Inside that wall is the answer, and you don’t need a 4lb hammer either. Tucked into your instructions is a line that says ‘believe in who you are’, and that you can do this…because you can…900 billion people before you have done this. Yes, they sometimes scream, sometimes they do crazy things. But IT IS THERE waiting for you to look, ask yourself why these same painful things always happen in all those relationships, and finally take that step of asking your heart why it cries itself to sleep, hides when those horrible situations arrive or face what it thinks is that place of pain. For in there is the answer, waiting for you to ask it THAT question.
Why do these people make me truly feel so hurt? Why do I react this way? And yes, the answer is in why ‘I’ feel this way, what ‘they’ do is actually done with great love (even though they may not be aware of that), so that you can ‘see’ why…in the ‘I’. When you do finally see it truly, it will leave you speechless because it is all done exactly as is needed for you to find that truth, that love and happiness you have always looked for.
Yes, in there is your freedom, and believe me it is much more than admiring your handiwork after a ‘furniture-pack’ episode. It will give you a love beyond words, finally a total acceptance of what and who you are. This one won’t bite you, hurt you or even think anything odd…because this one is unconditional, you have finally understood it and you can put your emotional screwdriver down forever…your free 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Beautiful blog
Thank you, it is a blessing to have so much shared with me 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Soo true 💯💗💗
It is a hard journey but in that very thing is the making of us ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Loving your sense of humor in this, Mark. Packs a lot of truth! Oh yes this journey called being human ….. say what? Where is the manual for that? LOL
I’ve noticed on my “challenging” days I get triggered more so then on my calm days. I consult with someone I trust, talking it out, and then I understand. Oh yeah, that. I go back to the original button, look at it, and instead of “re-acting” to it, I smother it with actions/words that say …. um, perhaps you may want to look at this from another perspective and that is … And in so doing, I change how I first “re-acted”.
I also have this knack, which is irritating at best sometimes, to “see” behind the actions or words of others. And depending on where that person is on his or her journey I have to measure how I act or speak in turn. Lately I tend to blurt out truth regardless of where that person is at and it doesn’t fair too well. So I backpedal, think, catch myself in the mirror, and recreate. I caught myself doing something the other day by glancing in the mirror and I said “oh my” and immediately from that moment on, I changed what I didn’t like in what I saw. The difference? Huge. The pattern changed. The drama changed. And that is just one tiny step. Amazing what we can do when we are aware.
Putting together a bookcase once, I knew I could do it. Now hubby wants to immediately assess and tell me he can do it better. I insisted … no me. And I did it! I even understood the manual, lol.
If this is a bit scattered of a response I’m just flowing. Lately that is what I am doing. I am on such a tight cat schedule that the moment I can step out of it I flow and God only knows where I flow to. Teehee ………
Hey dear lady, it is good to hear from you. Your schedule has been traumatic at best and my heart goes to you my friend. Your ‘awakening’ is going nicely, you cannot ‘see’ another in its truth until you step into yours. And with all your path at the moment your life has been that upheaval to find just that. I have even felt that all your ‘babies’ are guiding you with all that is happening at the moment. The human variety of interactions tend to be too blunt (even though that is most certainly needed), and have us all on guard. But your beautiful feline family give from a much more balanced variety of love and allow you to be just you…and see your heart more gently.
As for those flat packs in life, yes those life instructions are only those whispers our hearts make but we eventually learn to listen to them and be free. Thank you for sharing Amy, I hope your heart is finally allowing you to ‘see’ much more and giving you that inner freedom of ‘life’. And especially I can see that in your pictures 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 😂 🤣
Mark, life circumstances have caught up with me and require that I take a break from blogging. Thank you and God bless you. xo
God bless you too dear lady. And I also send you love and light for your path my friend. Just find your heart, the others will find their own xox ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Mark, I am dealing with another critically ill baby who will most likely have to go the Rainbow Bridge very soon. This will make 3 of my babies within 5 months who have passed. I cannot, will not, blog in the last days of our Whispers. I am also so busy with so many other babies needing close care, I have nothing left to give to others right now. My heart is fine. It’s again breaking, however.
Oh Amy, you poor darling. That is too much for anyone, to have so much happen in such a short time. And I most certainly would not expect you to do anything but where your heart is dear lady ❤️
Much love and light for you and their journey my friend, may it be with great love and peace ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
A beautiful analogy Mark… I resonate with the child shutting down when she doesn’t feel loved, thought to be right and needed and we carry this around, being triggered until we finally get it, understand they loved us the best they could and it is all about experiencing the discovery of the loving light we all truly are within❤️ so happy you are following with wisdom to share with the world Mark❤️ much love x
Still here young lady, playing with ‘my’ flat pack of life. I’ve learned to read my instructions pretty well but even I get an occasional surprise thrown in to keep me on my feet. I’m afraid that is the journey, to be tested in so many ways so we can unfold to see exactly what we are holding inside so that we can be free. Mind you, I’m sure some of these instructions are written in a foreign language sometimes 😂 🤣
Much love and light to you also my friend, may your instructions always be followed by that light of understanding 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Just love how you put this post together Mark. Very creative. If we keep working at accepting ourselves for who we are and not what we wish we were, and keep up the work of healing that hurt child within us, one day we will find the peace we are seeking. And when that day arrives, we won’t care what anyone thinks of us because we will be happy just being who we are.
That is the most amazing thing I found Michele. When I saw and understood what had created all that inner pain through my life, understood it and let it go…everything stopped mattering anymore. People can now come up to me and blast me, abuse me and a million other things…and it no longer bothers me. And I can now see it was only ever my reaction to my ‘on guard’ thinking that it was always an attack on me, those self negativities that I always thought everyone was out to get me or I wasn’t good enough or a million other things. All of it was in that one bundle of self fear from my childhood. Once I saw it, but more to the point, understood it, I could see it integrated itself into everything I did. It’s like a cut on your hand festering away, it doesn’t matter what you do it keeps being bumped and gets agitated so it never heals. But once you realise ‘heal you first’, it will be healed (cuts or hearts), and we can then get on with living. Thank you for sharing Michele, may your furniture packs ‘be’ 5 easy steps 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
Hello my dear Mark….
Love your analogy of furniture packs. It is truly stunning to look back to the beginning of time and see how we have been led far away from self realization through massive and continual distraction as well as lies. Every aspect of our lives have been deceitful on every level. Right
to religion even. Look at how we have always been called “God fearing people”. Really? In that one simple statement we were taught to ‘FEAR’ God which in essence was to fear ourselves for are we not all a part of God in our own right? It really is amazing to watch everything unfolding and many is the time I want to take the 45 lb hammer and smash the entire furniture pack into little bitty pieces!!!! But onward we go and yes, if we learn to love ourselves and more importantly SEE ourselves for who we truly are, then life begins to flow downstream. Great piece Mark and I am so thankful you are still improving with each day and are home and at peace. Stay well my friend and enjoy the journey. Much love and caring….VK ❤️ 🙂
Hey VK, I had to use something we would all allude to as a frustrating experience and those poor packs were it. But they are easy, it says so on the pack 😂 🤣
But yes, there is so much ‘fear’ twisting everything in our lives but it all has great purpose. We can never find ‘us’ unless we test the waters all around. Mind you, some of that is very muddy waters 😀
And to be very truthful it has never meant to be ‘paradise’ down here (yet), as it has a very beautiful and profound journey to complete yet, to guide us to that inner love that we block so that we will understand and appreciate that ‘heaven’ when it rocks up. By then we will appreciate every little piece of who we are…and then some.
And thank you dear lady, my journey has indeed been a very slow but appreciated path to re-find me again. It too has tested the waters all around, I just had to learn to breathe again 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 😂 🤣
It’s so true and I can relate so very well do what you said here. Most of all when it comes to that child that was always told it had to be different or was even punished when its self surfaced. Modling into a shape parents or a parent declared as the right way to be. A child doesn’t know it any better and trusts those people it is dependent. Of course, over time it believes that something must be wrong with it and the journey to trying to find out who it had to be starts. The more insecure the more people will support that feeling. But at one point we are grown up and we will understand that there is nothing wrong with that child but with the person trying to shape that child to their taste. The moment of awakening and the beautiful (when even scary) journey back home.
A wonderful post, Mark!!
I finally found that it was a natural occurrence, we all are brought up by those many parents who all have their own ‘bits’ and can do nothing more than be themselves and pass it on. I even suggested to spirit that if we could get into schools when they are a very young age and ‘guide’ them through this time it would ‘balance’ their lives a bit more and allow them a better chance. But spirit ‘laughed’, very gently, and told me…could I imagine telling that childs parents that they are raising their child wrong and should do this or that…and…without these same children going through these hard and tough journey’s, as we all do, how would they learn to find themselves and in that hard but scarring journey is the very thing that allows then to see the difference between all those very same conditional things in their lives and the understanding of releasing them and in doing so become that unconditional love of ourselves…which is the entire purpose of our journey. The meaning of life if you will. It always takes that inner journey to feel and understand one side, like sadness, to then really understand and appreciate happiness truly. Our journey through those many things are the making of us, without them we would be nothing. Nothing to hope for, to fight for, to achieve even as all would have lost its purpose, our striving to be better etc. And as you said, our awakening is that beautiful, hard but very appreciated understanding, a wisdom of the ages. Thank you for sharing kind lady, may your path see them all 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
You know, from a distance and with a little more openness and acceptance, we realize that those parents only did what they thought was the right thing. They acted from how they were raised and put themselves together through their experiences. The same happens with their children when they are parents later. I know that I was not better than my parents, just different. But at one point, I realized what I was doing and from there I could forgive my parents since I understood that it was never about me. From that moment on, I took responsibility for my mental development.
As you said, what made us is the basis we have to develop from.
Again, your post was so inspiring and so profound, Mark! As always!
Very correct Erika. It takes a much more open mind to look to that depth and see it wasn’t an intentional thing that parents and children do but a natural one, simply because they knew no other way. And it is ‘our’ journey so that we can ‘find’ us among the trips and stumbles. And the part that always stuns me is…in among the mayhem we call life is the most profound coming together of so many things that allows that journey to take place. We attract (and that in itself is incredible), so many things into our lives and they are the exact things to push our buttons and ask us to better ourselves. And even treats us to some amazing magical events that leave us stunned, sometimes madly in love and even to show us ourselves in pieces of truth to hint at what is within, and make us think much deeper than ‘I need chocolate’ 😂 🤣
When each and every one of us is ever guided further there is beneath it all a beauty beyond words. The day I saw it I was stunned, in tears for what it meant, and could finally truly love me in its understanding. If that isn’t a miracle I don’t know what is. Thank you for sharing dear lady, may your miracle of life be…well…everywhere for you 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 😂 🤣
Yes, exactly, Mark. I love to look at it that way too. Life shows us so often that we can break out of the circle of family karma. Once we realize that we can AND that we are allowed to is such a milestone in recognizing that we can always change our ways of thinking and acting. ALWAYS! And it goes along with the realization that what brought us there may have been the love to someone or to ourselves that triggered the need to change something. Again, love is the answer and the solution!
Thank you, dear Mark. May our journeys always be filled by the magic of love and its insights that make us grow and discover the beauty of life in all that life is!😊
Your last line is that beautiful journey Erika. When we finally ‘see and understand’ we will finally realise there really is a rainbow in this journey dear lady…all built on that love we have now uncovered 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
I think, this is the most wonderful discovery to make. And when we live in the energy of love we will find rainbows wherever we walk. Much love to you, Mark!!
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