Decided to dance a little deeper in life, and wow can spirit dance!


Unconditional Love!

Unconditional love is the opposite of total fear.
We cannot ‘know’ and appreciate one without experiencing the same with the other.
We understand and can give love only by the very measure that we understand our fear, and its hold over us.
The day we fully understand our fear is the day we understand unconditional love.
And on that day…something wonderful will happen, something that mere words cannot even express.
But at the very least of all that will happen, we will truly see our purpose…and in knowing it we will allow ourselves to be free.
And it awaits us all. Each step we take, even those ones we think we failed, are for a purpose…your purpose.
Believe in you…have faith in you…it is already there within you, just waiting to be understood…and set free ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹


Understanding II – Fear!


  1. The opening lines are the key – Unconditional love is the opposite of total fear.
    We cannot β€˜know’ and appreciate one without experiencing the same with the other.” To be honest, I’ve never thought of unconditional love that way, but this makes sense to me. Well done,

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you kind sir, and thankfully we get to experience both sides of all our emotions so that we will appreciate truly their differences all the more πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

  2. You always give me something good to chew on, Mark:). I’m reading a book talking about how we need to find the Divine–God–in everything. Even if it seems to completely lack the Divine, we need to find it and raise it by our awareness of its goodness. I’m so very human in so many ways that I’m struggling with that–the most extreme cases seem insurmountable to me. But your words come and I ponder . . .

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Ah dear lady, it is like anything that we find very profound in our lives, we will see it all come together and finally ‘understand’ something and go ‘oh wow, that’s amazing’. God’s likeness in everything is exactly the same, we will struggle, fall, tumble and just downright scream to the unfairness of it all down here…and then one day we will ‘see’ it for what it is. And from my heart to yours, it will be the most profound thing you will ever ‘feel’, simply because it has been the most hardest, painful thing you will ever experience. That is life, the one thing we experience the mostest, longest, hardest and downright frustratingness thing ever. But each and every step is gaining us its wisdom by bringing all those bits into our hearts so that one day that profound bit will rock us to its core. And the tears that will flow from its understanding will be the most beautiful we have ever given, and so glad to do so.
      Why? Because if you look back at those other profound moments you will remember a gladness because you can now ‘see’ it for what it is, a relief because you can understand it for what it is, a beauty for realising just how it all came together. But this time it will be far, far more than that. This time you will ‘see’ just how magnificent it is, how each and every person attracts what they need, and then you will see that not only that but each of us is the answer to each other when we meet or interact. And then, and then, and then….and it goes on and on and on. I was so gobsmacked by what I could now see…where before was the most confusing, unbelievable terror that this life seems to be…is in fact the most incredibly perfect ‘interaction’ that you could ever imagine. And it all does one thing, all of it…it gives us the understanding of love…the unconditional variety, in all its beauty.
      And that particular love I have seen and felt in ‘The Death’ up on my menu bar…and it is beyond words dear lady. If you would ask me now would I go through another life, even worse than this one, to touch that further understanding again…most certainly, it is beyond words the power and beauty that it is. From the most simplest things to the most profound, it all changes us so that we can see. Like my comment on money, if we are given tons of it we will spend it willy nilly and never appreciate it. But if we have to work hard for it, only then will we take time in what we spend it on. Only then will we appreciate what it took to achieve it and take care in the worth of its spending. Life is exactly the same in all that we do. We only ever appreciate those things that were hard to achieve, and life is like that. The moment you finally ‘see’ it in all its beauty is that day the tears will come, but this time the tears of love for us, simply because we will see it is all ‘the meaning of life’, we will finally, truly understand it all and realise it was only ever us blocking that self love, achieving that love and happiness in our lives, simply because we needed to see and feel and understand ‘conditional’ love so that we could appreciate what we had achieved and in its understanding stand in God’s ‘unconditional’ love. He gave us this place so that we too could be where He now is ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

  3. Unconditional love is a beautiful thing Mark. Unfortunately not found in very many adults. I have found it in little children and animals. It’s not that it can’t happen with adults, but I think it’s something we need to practice. It starts with us going within and learning to overcome the feelings of rejection, and also realizing that not everything has a price. Very good post Mark. xo

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you kindly Michele, it is indeed a difficult thing to achieve. And yes, those children and animals do come from a clearer heart…until they are subject to upbringing from an already damaged adult. But I will tell you a secret…the day I truly saw what drove my fear, it showed me something. It truly was only me blocking my own love. I put conditions on it by thinking I was not good enough, it must be me in some way why I felt rejected, it was a part of who I was as to why I was being treated as I was. And on it goes, I, I ,I in all that I thought.
      And that is the journey, once I saw ‘why’ I held those beliefs, and after all I had ever been through…I could finally see that it was only me taking on those very things that was taught to me by adults who knew no better, as they too had been on my exact journey…as we all do. It wasn’t until I understood this that spirit finally said it is all our journey so that we can understand unconditional love. We must know and understand sadness to know and appreciate happiness etc. All those emotions and their opposites are there for a very loving purpose. We must know ‘conditional’ to know and appreciate ‘unconditional’ love. Without this journey we are lost. And as difficult as it was to believe spirit…God gave us all of this so that we can find it, become the unconditional by the very conditions this beautiful place gives us. And the day that I saw my fear for what it truly was I could finally see beneath to what had always been there, but I was too afraid to look, so that I would indeed appreciate my journey and what I had been given with a very great love. And the ‘let go’ on that day was incredible, the profoundness of it brought me to tears, because I ‘knew’ why it is all there and I had stepped beyond its boundaries. I cannot describe it in any other way, but as so many things came together in that one moment, that it is ‘the meaning of life’ in all its glory.
      Sorry got excited again Michele, when it comes back up and I think of it, that inner smile raises its head, heart and mind to touch it all over again πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

  4. Will try again Mark, it wouldn’t work from my bell box reply so here again in person.. Also I tried to comment in the reader in your post as I clicked something and it took me to the reader post not here.. and I got this reply there… It said Sorry – there was a problem posting your comment.

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Now that is weird Sue. I’ll keep poking and prodding buttons, it should be in the Settings area but the one I want will probably be in the appearance section under themes or something πŸ˜‚ 🀣

      • Not to worry Mark.. Its still not sending back… I have three sites I follow now all dot coms.. not the… Which comments returning have failed.. It didn’t use to happen.. When I have more time I will contact the Happy engineers lol.. see what they have to say.. πŸ™‚

        • Mark Lanesbury

          I’ll send up a prayer Sue, you never know what it can do…even for an electronic illness πŸ˜‚ 🀣

  5. The Wild Pomegranate//Abi

    For true unconditional love get a pet!! They show us how to give it and receive it! πŸ’–

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Most certainly my friend, they do love you regardless of our actions. And some of ‘our’ actions need to be seen to be believed…yet there they are, wagging tails, sad eyes…reflecting back to us what we are.
      Thank you for sharing. Just a thought, maybe they should be mandatory in all government offices. Might bring hearts a little closer to the surface for those needed decisions πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

  6. “Unconditional love is the opposite of total fear.
    We cannot β€˜know’ and appreciate one without experiencing the same with the other.”

    So, so, true Mark…. And that fear is now surfacing to be faced…. Only when we face that fear, release it do we then allow in that unconditional love…

    Beautifully said dear Mark… Thank you πŸ™‚ πŸ’–πŸ™

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you Sue, a journey you have seen, touched, and most certainly now appreciate in its understanding dear lady. No wonder your garden grows so beautifully with that energy all around it ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹
      May it always sing that love my friend ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

      • Looks like I have to come personally to deliver my answers, it fails to send via the notification bell alerts.. It has happened with other blogs which are private….
        So here is my reply Mark
        Thank you Mark… I do have my failures too, lol and some in the garden also… But then I look not as them as failures, but a lesson to create better conditions next time…
        Our world right now is undergoing a lesson, and the conditions we create now will go forward to create the ground for our future growth…..
        May we all hold our seeds in love and plant them with good intentions…
        Love and Light dear friend β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈπŸ™πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

        • Mark Lanesbury

          That is beautifully said dear lady, we are constantly being asked many questions by this world, and in doing so we are shown ‘us’. Slowly becoming brighter in that love within us.
          Sorry about the site, I will look into that side of it. I haven’t touched anything in that area so I had hoped it was set at a default which is usually chat away. The only thing that I see is the browser alerts are disabled but that is only an alert, it doesn’t affect the actual messaging.
          With the way things are going I’m going to have to go back to writing letters…you know…pen and paper πŸ˜‚ 🀣

          • Nope, wouldn’t work again to send.. I got the red failed alert..
            I do not think it is you Mark… Comments use to work but since they gave me the new editor I have had problems sending replies back to several people.. Mainly they are in WP’s org sites not com sites.. that do not return.. I often do not get their replies either unless I revisit their site. A nuisance but navigational lol ❀️

            • Mark Lanesbury

              Mmm, that’s odd. This site is a dot com dot au. Maybe Australia has fallen off the map. And don’t get me started on the editor, that is most seriously fallen off the map.
              Mind you I do have one other thing up my sleeve to try out, I have a setting in the ‘moderation’ area that is doing odd things so I will focus there and see if that will change anything.
              Thank you Sue…I shall try, try again πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

  7. We need more of one and less of the other!

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Yes, that would be fantastic dear lady for sure…but we wouldn’t understand it truly. It’s like my comment about money…if we are given lots of money we would spend it willy nilly. But if we have to work for it only then do we stop and consider what we spend it on because we have worked hard for it, appreciate what we have done to obtain it and now give much consideration for what we use it for. Love is the same, as is all parts of our life, until we face all those emotional opposites we will not understand them and appreciate what they are, and then spend them appropriately. Our adventures (if we can call some of them that), ask us to face ourselves in all that we do. And for all of us some of them are terrors to behold. But all of us will be changed because of them and eventually begin to see and appreciate what we have experienced.
      I have so much chocolate I appreciate so much now where before I didn’t. I had to swallow some bitter ones first so that I would appreciate what I had. Sorry, I had to slip this comment in πŸ˜‚ 🀣
      Thank you for sharing dear lady, and I do know you have been through some of those terrors. May your heart find you on its way through and hear unconditional’s heartbeat πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

  8. Anonymous

    Fill your world with love and compassion and refuse to partake in the ongoing agenda of hatred. If we remain positive and reach out to each other our world will expand and the love will grow. As with everything in life, the choice is ours. Always! Blessings Mark. Thanks! Well said. ,VK ❀️

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you kindly VK, and holding that positivity is indeed a life to live. Love will be much clearer and open the more we experience it. And the fears, they poke and prod until we understand ‘why’ they affect us so that we can understand them also. Then we will appreciate what we have gone through, understand the ‘why’ behind it all and be set free.
      At the moment it is testing many, asking them why they react as they do and this will clear the decks for many as it is asking for change, generational change because it is so big so that laws and attitudes will change as well, and this is for both sides of that coin. And hopefully, when the dust settles we can begin to live again…changed yes…but for the betterment of us all. Thank you for sharing ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

  9. Beautiful, Mark!! This right now in history is THE time for humankind to step into Unconditional Love. But first fear must be understood and experienced in order for the masses to be familiar with fear, know what it is, reject it and turn as a consequence to Unconditional Love. What we don’t experience we don’t know or understand. And once fear is lived, and I mean really lived, most people will want nothing to do with it. Once Love is felt and lived, there is NO going back!!

    • Mark Lanesbury

      And it will be Amy, this place down here is exactly the experience we all need to understand and be free of fears influence. It will show us one side of the coin to allow us to understand the beauty that unconditional is and free us from its hold. As you now well know dear lady after all you have been through, you are letting go its tentacles simply because you now understand what built them and can finally see their purpose. And in doing so they slowly disappear into the background, forever losing their power over you. Take a bow dear lady, that is the hardest part of this whole journey. The universe will bring it back up occasionally but that is only to test you so you can see that you have become better, have gone beyond it and are becoming that freedom that love is ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

  10. Beautiful Mark. One senses the beautiful truth inspiring these words….thank you!

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you kind sir. And they most certainly were, its understanding was given to me with a great love…an unconditional one ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

      • It’s like completely stepping aside as sacred love pours the essence of her unconditional love onto the page. What an amazing future that lies just within the grasp of humanity.

        • Mark Lanesbury

          That it does George, it will open something wonderful for us all ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

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