Merry Christmas To All!

Mark Lanesbury

December 23, 2021

When we are in a relationship we HOLD that love, don’t ever want to lose it. But that is not unconditional love, it is conditional, it is bound by our needs, those fears of not being loved, hence the love we always WANT, those expectations where we ask the other to not do this or that because it is painful, our fears demanding a love, not giving a love.

Anything created on conditions cannot ‘be’ where unconditional is. And in fact it is the opposite to what we think. Anything we have ever striven for…we build. But unconditional is in fact when we ‘let go’…of everything. When understanding something, we release it, no longer having to think it over and over. Understand our fears (or anything else for that matter), and we will let it go. It loses the conditions we had placed on ourselves in holding it, becoming that unconditional love we ever search for.

Just for this Christmas, for a few days…let it all go…the pain, the tears, even the thinking…and just GIVE a hug, even the gift of some time to those around you. If it tugs at any anger or fears…deny them for a while. You deserve that, everybody does. Forget the world, it isn’t going anywhere…but you will go somewhere. Somewhere peaceful, somewhere calm even among the joyful screaming of those children (and some adults 😀), opening gifts. Look at those children’s eyes, copy that sparkle that you can see…it is there in us too, we just cover it over. Breathe…and uncover them for a while…give that gift to you, you deserve them too ❤️

Merry Christmas everyone, may its peace, love and joy visit you all ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

44 thoughts on “Merry Christmas To All!”

  1. You are so inspirational Mark. It is a blessing to know you, to care about you and to read your loving messages and posts. Thanks for being you. Merry Belated Christmas and a blessed 2022 to you! 🦋🙏❤️

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    1. Never belated dear lady, your blessings are beyond time and gratefully received whenever shared. Thank you! ❤️ I hope you had a great Christmas and the new year has started with much love, and thank you for your kind words, they too are gratefully received. I just share what I have been given in my journey, and hopefully a guidepost for any who are lost. Have a great year Yvonne 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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    1. Thank you kindly Ananda, understanding is a beautiful gift for us all. And one day we will understand us ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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  3. Great Message dear Mark.. I am late arriving over Christmas… I let go, and embraced family, along with solitude, nature and crafts… Truly had a Magical time.. I hope your Christmas dear Mark also held Magic..

    Sending you lots of love dear friend, as we step into the embrace of our New year..
    May we let go of the old, as we learn to build the New. May we Let go of grudges, Let go of labels, let go of separation, and instead May we Unite.. Learn Tolerance, as we co-operate and not compete, and as we each of us embrace our brothers and sisters as One…

    When we learn to live in Harmony, and Love, each other and ourselves.. Then we change our World..

    Happy New Year Mark.. ❤️ 😀 ❤️
    Sue x

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    1. A beautiful message from you also dear lady, a place we are each reaching as this world goes through its changes. I did a quiet Christmas and ‘listened’ to what is happening as I felt many pass by my home (I’m on the edge of the lake). They are all tired, blind (but only because their fears build this…as it has done for us all), and the anger. Christmases before it was just blowing of steam after a year at work, on holidays and just wanted to enjoy themselves so would have a drink and let it out with a party or two enjoying the atmosphere…but this, this is a holding in, not knowing what to do, frustrated with an enforced way of being. Mind you, those that run this country have their own agenda, and do not realize that this time bomb is ticking away. Fits and bursts at protest marches, even an indigenous group set fire to the old parliament house. A government spokesperson said ‘oh, we have lost so many memento’s of that era in the fire’, while the indigenous watch the mines bulldoze their sacred grounds, 60 thousand years of history of cave painting art etc., gone forever. And that is what it is all about, those inner fears holding us away from the true us, holding us hostage to that harmony and love you speak of Sue and making decisions that affect so many, so poorly. I know its a journey but as you spoken of, it has ratcheted up a gear and wants to be heard…both sides…and that is what change is, the breaking of the old into the new. But I think this one is going to make itself known ‘generationally’ rather than individually.
      I hope we change our world too my friend, but slowly as love should in its understanding as we see it inside us and choose to let it out. And understand that the choice will always be our own, and in that see that any other way will be fears choice, our own or others.
      You also have a Happy New Year dear lady, and thank you for your blessings. May we be that change so others can see that it doesn’t have to be any other way but the love and happiness that is waiting within, that change in each of us that will indeed find what we have ever searched for.
      Love and light to you Sue, and a world to enjoy it in as we bring it into being ❤️ 🙏🏽
      Mark xo ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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  4. A belated Merry Christmas to you, dear Mark. Unconditional Love is something we were not taught in this realm and it takes a LOT of practice to know what it is. Letting go and accepting is a great deal more challenging then we know so over and over again we practice. There are days I mess up and realize at the same time God LOVES me even in those moments which in turn gives me more impetus to love others when they are not at their best. It’s a process, one that takes years, if ever, to accomplish. I am getting the hang of the concept and I’ve spoken of it for many years, yet the training involved is quite complex. Sending you much Love!!!! xoxoxoxo

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    1. Thank you Amy, blessings gratefully received and returned in kind dear lady. It is 6am New Years Day here and the silence is magical, not a soul stirring yet. Probably too many hangovers 🤣. And yes, unconditional love takes a bit of practice, a lifetimes worth. But He wants to give us every chance to understand so we get to trip and stumble through most of this life so that we attract what we need to see it. Hard, yes…but we wouldn’t appreciate what we have put into it if it wasn’t. Like your photo’s my friend, you work at getting better but now you just ‘are’ there as you ‘let go’ into what that gift is made of…unconditional love. You don’t have to try too hard, information comes to you, ‘just right’ is your dictionary. Have a beautiful new year dear lady, may ‘just right’ be your love and light into this new year xox 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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      1. I too stepped outdoors this morning, Mark, and the quiet was all consuming. Even the birds are quiet as a very dense and thick cloud cover seems entwined in everything. Everyone’s Journey is different to which I am making huge decisions to stay away from those places and people who are very dark. My sensitive nature cannot tolerate Nazi, Germany. It seems my life is being whittled down more and more and as I sit here this morning, tears are close as what I had considered my life to be is no longer. The empty is now waiting for the Light to create a New Way for the old that had been present is no longer. No matter how long I am on this Journey, there continues twists and turns and tears and sorrow yet in faith, I know that GOOD I shall reap for a life beyond my dreams. And yes information does come to me, my friend, for I know I am exactly in the position the Universe wants me to be. It hurts. Yes. Yet, Mother’s Voice chimes in telling me to join Her so I can give all my woes to Her. And so I continue ….. You have a beautiful New Year as well!!! Bless you, dear friend! xo

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        1. Hang in there dear lady, it is a difficult journey but a very loving one too. It will eventually come to those that are currently ‘doing’ their journey…but it is those guide posts that we are that can tip that balance for those to see…just by being us. Keep ‘doing’ you, that love in action, and you too have a great year. It appears to be coming to a head in many ways 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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  5. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas Mark. Love this post. I think anytime we can give of ourselves unconditionally it’s a beautiful thing. I actually discovered how important unconditional love was from my grandson when he was 9 years old. I have never forgotten what he taught me.

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    1. A great Christmas indeed thank you Michele. And isn’t it amazing where those messages come from…out of the mouths of babes. We will indeed attract exactly where our hearts are at dear lady, that is the perfection of unconditional love as we slowly chip away those many conditions we bind it by. But by understanding conditional only then can we understand and then fully appreciate what unconditional is. Both are needed to see their beauty. Have a Happy New Year Michele, I pray it is an open, understanding and loving year in your journey 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 ✨ 🎇 💥 🌹 🍾 🍸 🌈 🕊 💫

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    1. Thank you Kristine, blessings received with the love they are given kind lady, thank you. I just read your new post and I think yes, to bloom is indeed your journey this year. The virus has left us all to contemplate that inner meaning and I think you have found that word to move beyond it. Have a very Happy blooming New Year also dear lady, may it look, feel and smell like a rose 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 ✨ 🎇 💥 🌹 🍾 🍸 🌈 🕊 💫

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        1. Alas, I still can’t comment at your site…so you’ll just have to put up with the silence for however long it takes. Have a great year dear lady 😂 🤣

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  8. True love is rare and immensely precious. When I experience true unconditional love is the moment I feel completely seen, understood, forgiven, accepted, and loved outside confined walls. This feeling is the most embracing and liberating sensation one will ever experience. It gives me flight to freely be who I am ~🕊~ Thank you for this my dear friend…

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    1. And thank you Linda, it is such a freeing feeling that lightness of unconditional love. We release all that we hold onto, the denseness of those lower negative energies and can finally become what has ever waited for us to find. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and touch that lightness that it is. Love and light to you, and thank you for all that lightness you have shared 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🦌 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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    1. And a Merry Christmas to you and yours also kind sir 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🦌 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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  11. “Anything created on conditions cannot ‘be’ where unconditional is.” That is the ultimate essence that we need to understand. We are searching for love but right through that searching we make love conditional because we are looking for something specific in it. Your words are so essential. Your post touched me deeply again and I agree, let’s let go of any expectations and simply appreciate and cherish what we have just the way it is, just the way everybody is. And lets do it consciously because then we can truly feel the essence of unconditional love.
    Thank you for your wonderful inspiration, Mark, and for sharing your inner wisdom 💖

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    1. Thank you Erika. It is all a learning experience dear lady, we have to start at the beginning until we understand and move on from each place within us. And I thank you for always sharing from that place, and touching us all in your journey. Have a wonderful Christmas with family and I hope it too will touch that inner place, bring a tear or two, be it sad or happy to make this time as it should be…full of joy and love 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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      1. Thank you so much for your touching words. As I once said, this all is mutual. I am thankful and happy that we are connected. Have a wonderful Christmas, dear Mark 💖

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        1. You too Erika, and enjoy your break! 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🦌 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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    1. I thank you with all my heart Pam, those blessings gratefully received with the love they are given kind lady. May you too have a beautiful Christmas, layered in a snowy blanket, and singing cheer 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️
      Oh…and P.S. so many posts I’m being blocked from commenting on, on your blog, and especially after some beautiful posts. So I can sneak one comment in here for your post ‘The Christmas That Almost Wasn’t!’….That is brilliant dear lady, should be shouted from the rooftops. Opens the heart to feel its love.Thank you for sharing this, it has made my day Christmas 😂 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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    1. Have a beautiful Christmas dear lady, even among the mayhem we can just let it go for a while and just appreciate what is there under it all, waiting as it always does 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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    1. That is the whole point kind sir, faith is having trust in something even if we can’t see it. Trust builds that love. All through our lives those ‘little things’ that happen, that can’t be explained and leaves us wondering. Sometimes more profound like I have had that leaves no doubt of the beauty that is there, gently waiting for us in that faith. Even just ‘life’ is an amazing thing, even though we search for meaning within it. But like any trip we take there is a beginning, the journey and a destination. So far it may seem to be very rough but in that roughness is a gem being tumbled, and in that roughness something is being polished, slowly creating something each time you go through an event it shows you…you. And your ability to appreciate just what you have endured, and understanding that you can and do go through many things and come out the other side. But most of all, it will show you that you cannot know and appreciate happiness unless you experience sadness too. This world is showing you all of those emotions, they are all the conditions that this world is…so that when the time comes…you will then know and appreciate unconditional love too. It is unavoidable, it is what you are made of, to become something we have ever looked for, that love and happiness out there…but is gently waiting within you, for you to accept you…and finally be free to know that love truly. Merry Christmas Utuhan, allow the joy of it in, it is always up to you to be free in its understanding ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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    1. Merry Christmas to you and family also Cindy (after fishing you out of the spam folder 😱) 🤣 😂 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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      1. Merry Christmas mark❤️ Thankyou for your beautiful words just for us all the holiday time… cheers to letting go and just being in the sparkle flow, loving ourselves so much🥰🎅🎶 ho ho ho🥂🎶🕺💃🏼

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        1. Thank you Barbara, maybe it will help others in a new way of being. Have a beautiful Christmas dear lady, may its joy keep our hearts free 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🦌 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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