Decided to dance a little deeper in life, and wow can spirit dance!

Sunrise

Empathy!

After reading a post on empathy called Opinions from a lovely lady across the big water, I decided I would throw in my journey with empathy and how it affected me over the years.

Empathy…it conjures thoughts of being at one with another, ‘feeling’ another’s heart by connecting and understanding what they are going through…and sometimes whether you wish to or not.

For those sensitive people a ‘connection’ can be like someone pulling a plug and that feeling of being drained with each step you take when you are with someone.

Now personally, because I can feel the energy of another, it was like that plug pulling exercise. Each time that I gave a massage to a client it would range from a zero to crawling out of the room at the completion feeling like I had been hit by a truck (they of course felt fantastic).

But as time went by and as I faced and understood my fears, that draining empathy while connecting to another receded until it now very rarely raises its head.

Why? I can still ‘feel’ another, in fact it is now very high. But as spirit guided me through my fears it soon became plain that those very fears were the culprits. They act as a magnet. We project those fears and actually create them by our actions, whether physically or emotionally. And in doing so we automatically attract that very energy back to us.

We open ourselves to others to help and guide which in itself can be quite emotionally draining, but while ever we are holding our fear we never quite truly ‘open’ . There is a reserve, a protection by that very wall we build to keep us from our fear, and that very thing is amplifying the drain we feel.

Now I must jump forward to explain that last remark. It is when I finally faced my fear, saw it and understood it, that it was finally let go. It had lost its power over me. And then a strange thing happened. Because I was no longer ‘holding onto’ those fears…I opened…and I mean opened. Each time I faced something that used to ‘hold me’ in its pattern, it now had no hold at all. To start with, out of habit, I would go into my old ways of dealing with things…but it was just that, a habit. Each time now I am not ‘holding’ anything, so each and every time I face anyone who is stressed or emotionally upset…there is nothing for it to hold, I am no longer a magnet to those emotions.

I, after so many years, was set free. I had released myself from that emotional pain by becoming fear free.

It is an amazing thing to stand with someone, feel the upset and emotional mayhem…and no longer be touched by it. Don’t get me wrong, my heart does go out to them, great empathy is generated from sharing such a moment. But it is now unconditional. I removed those conditions we place on ourselves from those fears. Those very things hold us in so many patterns so we cannot be hurt by them. But those very actions draw them, with great love (even though it is painful time), to break us free from their hold so that we too can be free, free to give from a well that is now always full, no longer restricted and fully open.

Let me put it this way…while ever we are carrying stuff, physically or emotionally, we will struggle even though we can do many other things at the same time. But while ever we are free, we will relax, be more at ease, more open simply because there are no other distractions draining our focus.

While ever there is a restriction in our lives it will act like those plugs and drains…restricting all that we do. When we clear those blockages, remove the plugs we have built, it becomes an open channel with nothing to hinder any flow that comes through.

Be free, clear and flowing…your heart will thank you for it โค๏ธ

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  1. It’s a challenge to let go of things, but it can make such a difference. I love letting go of things and then being able to live in the moment and enjoy life. Posts like these really broaden my horizons. Thank you!

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Sorry Parker, you were deemed a spam and I only just found you in that folder ๐Ÿ˜€
      Thank you for your comment, and this world is designed to ‘test’ us, but in doing so we find ourselves. Hard yes, but oh so wonderful because we really appreciate what we’ve been through ๐Ÿ˜€

  2. “…and that feeling of being drained with each step you take when you are with someone.”
    “It is an amazing thing to stand with someone, feel the upset and emotional mayhemโ€ฆand no longer be touched by it.” My story. Thank you for tell my story in a better way than I could have. Thank you so much. You expressed it in such a beautiful way.

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you Gloria, and I am glad to hear you have become free of ‘fears’ bindings. It is a hard journey but in its travel is the creation of something so beautiful it almost defies words. And also creates an empathy we can now share with others, one that is very clear, very flowing, and with a love that is no longer ‘conditional’ ๐Ÿ˜€ โค๏ธ ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ ๐Ÿฆ‹ ๐Ÿฆ˜

      • Yes Mark. Gold would not look so beautiful and attractive if it hasn’t been refinded in fire. Going through that hardship and out of it makes it a beautiful experience. Thank you too.

        • Mark Lanesbury

          May your journey ever be in that light Gloria ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ โค๏ธ

  3. Wishing you dear Mark, a Very Happy Christmas my friend, thank you for your kindness, love and support you have shown Dreamwalker’s my friend..
    Sending love and Blessings for 2020 and beyond my friend โค๏ธ ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you dear Sue, and a Happy Christmas to you and yours and blessings for 2020 also my friend. It has been an interesting year to say the least but I know we have all taken closer steps to that love we all seek โค๏ธ
      Take another deep, peaceful and loving breath in, accept its beauty and exhale your blessings to a beautiful year coming for you โค๏ธ Namaste โค๏ธ

  4. I mean empathy can be beautiful but harmful sometimes when some people latch on and drain us…

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Our fears are our drivers. As are our expectations. But eventually as we understand ourselves and remove our fears, that inner love we uncover heals us all, no longer tormented and drained by that fearful life we leave behind ๐Ÿ’œ
      Thank you for sharing chocoviv, may your journey find that love ๐Ÿ’œ

  5. I started a comment here, Mark, but it was becoming a story! So, I’ve linked to my first post in months.
    So good to read your words again.

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Hey momus, great to hear your voice again. Since I moved here I’ve lost all my ‘likes’ (can’t transfer them over), and a lot of my followers, and this site went berserk and refused to allow comments or even let me comment in the beginning. It seems to have calmed down and I even get a few posts in now ๐Ÿ˜€
      Glad to hear from you, I shall wander over and see what you have been up to then ๐Ÿ˜€

      • You got me thinking, Mark, about how I deal with empathy. And, I reckon, I don’t!
        Not sure I can pass out advice to my offspring when I’m so naff at dealing with it myself.
        All advice welcome. I’m not sure I get how you managed it.x

        • Mark Lanesbury

          Don’t you hate people that do that, make you look at yourself lol ๐Ÿ˜€
          And trust me, we all do empathy, it is just nudged by our fears.
          Ok, you’ve set me off so I’m having a crack at another Empathy post, and like you I addressed it in reply to you ๐Ÿ˜€
          Its a few hours away at the moment, my empathy has been called for a healing with a friend of mine not handling life too well at the moment.
          I shall return soon dear lady xo ๐Ÿ˜€

  6. Empathy is so important and necessary and helpful.
    Love, light and glitter

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Empathy is a guide railing to touch and keep us balanced. It is in feeling it that we can ‘see’ our hearts journey and give us hope of a greater love, a ‘knowing’ that our path is true โค๏ธ
      Thank you for sharing Eliza, through much pain is that empathy, may your heart be guided by that love โค๏ธ

  7. It’s such a challenge to feel empathetic without taking on the baggage of the feeling, right? That’s progress!

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Once I understood and removed my fear, the baggage no longer had anything to hold. In fact the baggage is a guide to how ‘conditional’ we are. Once I understood my fear and fully opened, I was no longer trying to protect myself, block anything that was painful and ‘on guard’ to those emotions. Now I am really open and because of that I no longer even think about where the other person is at, I now stand in that ‘unconditional’ space. Now don’t get me wrong, down here is ‘conditional’ just to breath and take a step, but as the junk is cleared it becomes easier and easier to take those steps. And yes, it is progress so that as we clear we appreciate what it has taken to reach that place. Full of peace, love and a freedom like no other kind lady โค๏ธ
      In fact, it is just like your ‘connection’ in your last post. There was nothing there to interfere as it was ‘unconditional’. You probably barely knew that other people were even there you had been ‘raised’ into such a level, fully open and as smooth as a butterfly in flight. It was perfect โค๏ธ

  8. Loving, healing message, Mark. โค๏ธ

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Spirit passes on some very beautiful magic dear lady. Mind you, I do have to trip over this journey first to understand it…as do we all โค๏ธ

      • Journeys always trip us up a bit donโ€™t they? ๐Ÿ˜ƒ But we each get there in our own time. You never miss the mark, Mark. ๐Ÿ˜

        • Mark Lanesbury

          lol ๐Ÿ˜€ Our journeys are our guideposts, and I try not to miss, miss ๐Ÿ˜€

  9. All this stress and fear we hold onto can also cause us not to sleep well. But once we face the fear and all the stress, no more sleepless nights. We all hold in a lot of negative energy and it can really mess with our life. Thank you Mark for sharing this, it certainly has helped me.

    • Mark Lanesbury

      My pleasure dear lady. Those fears twist and turn our lives in so many ways. One thing I did learn a long time ago when I was doing my Remedial Massage we can be going through some of the most horrible times but one key factor is sleep. If we don’t restore the body with that we get weaker and weaker and less able to handle what comes. Yes, it is difficult to sleep simply because our anxiety (the flight/fright syndrome) teaches our adrenal gland to fire a tiny little bit as we are anxious. Our bodies are not designed to sleep whenever it is firing, it wants us to ‘run away’ from whatever is making us anxious.
      The only thing that saved me was mediation. I, even while all over the place, forced myself to stop and slow my breathing right down to long slow breathing which forces the adrenal to stop. I kept at it every time I felt anxious until within about 10 days my body started to respond by relaxing, showing me just how ‘uptight’ I had become. Yes, anxiety attacks still occurred initially but as soon as they hit I stopped and went into the breathing. And only after a week or so I could feel the difference and that I was getting on top of it. I hadn’t ‘lost control’ , I had regained it back and the relief and confidence it gave me was the breakthrough I needed.
      Thank you for sharing Michele, it gives confidence to others too ๐Ÿ’œ

  10. An excellent example of ‘Feeling’ while no longer carrying…
    It takes us a while in understanding this.. I am not always picture perfect though, and I catch myself learning to ‘Let-Go’ as those ‘Feelings’ of empathy if not careful can overtake… Learning to Detach has been an ongoing learning process, And I am far from perfect.. Still lots to learn, but Letting GO! has been one of the major learning curves in my life, along with Self Love, and seeing beauty within..
    Understanding the Fear we ourselves create in situations and within our emotions has to be experienced and understood.. Learning to let go of fear based emotions on what ever level we base that fear, is liberating when we finally we learn to let it all go..
    It requires work, deep internal personal work.. But once we unravel ourselves, we finally set ourselves free..

    Many thanks Mark.. I am late arriving, but loved reading other comments here also..
    Sending Love and Blessings my good friend.. ๐Ÿ’›

    • Mark Lanesbury

      It is a very big journey dear lady. And I think the main part to understand is…we have ‘imprinted’ a lifetime of fear…even in the great understanding I speak of we will still be faced by those things, but as time goes by our responses to them wither and die. A lifetime habit isn’t something that we click our fingers and it is suddenly gone (mind you, I have seen many do this, that is their journey), but for most the most important factor is that inner understanding. We no longer ‘hold’ it up and drag it with us. It comes back in later events, but it is just an echo of what we were and it also has purpose, it allows us to touch it occasionally and appreciate what it took to break free, understand it, and allow ourselves to change in heart and mind to that love we had denied ourselves for so long, becoming stronger and stronger as we rebuild from that inner truth we have finally found โค๏ธ

      • I agree Mark, especially about the imprinting, more like many life times ๐Ÿ™‚ too..
        And yes I so agree, we do indeed have to rebuild from that inner truth and adjust and be gentle with ourselves as we learn again to love and nurture self..
        Many thanks Mark for your insights here.. Always appreciated my good friend ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you โค๏ธ

  11. I love reading your posts mark, clear, simple and always inspire one to double check our own dungeons to make sure nothing lurksโค๏ธ Thankyou, do hope you are living the good life and have everything you desire๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿผ๐ŸŒˆ much love, Barbara x

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you for those lovely words Barbara, it is appreciated from a fellow lover of life ๐Ÿ˜€
      And my heart has most certainly found my highest desire, a cleared dungeon! ๐Ÿ˜€
      Much love to you also dear lady, may your dungeon give you this great treasure also โค๏ธ xo

  12. So beautifully put and expressed. I could feel every word and it was as if you described my own path. It looms as if we both have learned the same lesson and it was a very empowering step for me. Letting go of fear and surrendering to it was my way to no longer give the situation power over me and therefore there as no more interest in me and I was free. Beautifully written my dear friend and I am honored by this beautiful response. โค๏ธ

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Thank you Rhapsody, I was just following your journey in your post and understanding that we may all have different paths but they all lead to that inner love. Even our walls have the most incredible murals and designs engraved, painted and displayed to the world…but they all still have to come down and set us free ๐Ÿ˜€
      Again, thank you for sharing your heart, it gives great courage for others to try the same if they know there is in fact something beyond…something wonderful โค๏ธ

      • So beautifully put Mark. You are a master of utilizing words and makes happens when you speak. โค๏ธ

        • Mark Lanesbury

          It is an amazing thing inside us…when we finally step past our fear…we open…and I mean literally to the wisdom of our higher selves inside us. Whenever we stand in our truth, speak in our integrity, the ‘knowing’ comes forth and can be heard by those listening or reading. It will ‘connect’ so that we can see and hear to aid us in our journey and understand that the truth is that birth of our love from a lifetime of gestation.
          I do not ‘know’ this, but I can imagine the feelings and ‘connection’ that a woman touches when she does give birth. It must be very similar to that touch within us as we let go of this world and be as one within. The beauty of that love is unconditional ๐Ÿ’œ

          • Once again, so well put and I fully agree. There is an understanding, a silent approval and knowing that needs no words. You can just recognize it and the heart knows. Is a beautiful thing, I hope everyone gets to experience at their own level, whatever that may be. ๐Ÿ˜‰โค๏ธ

  13. What you write about Mark is indeed the challenge we have all been given to deal with in this lifetime. Unless one buckles down and does the work, we remain stalled and cannot move forward. Thanks for sharing your tale! May we all work to finally get things right with the world by doing so for ourselves first…VK โค๏ธ

    • Mark Lanesbury

      It is a challenge indeed my friend. And even though it tests us to the core, that very thing is the making of us โค๏ธ
      Thank you for sharing ๐Ÿ˜€

  14. Empathy is smthng tht we all should learn !! ๐Ÿ’œ

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Empathy is an emotional wisdom. As we go through these emotional events ourselves we feel their pain. Then when we feel another going through those same things our heart goes out to them.
      But with two restrictions. We will only apply those things by how we were brought up, as in we may never have been shown any empathy as we grew up so have no idea how to express this to another…and our fears (which is a part of the first), will restrict how we open to another.
      This entire journey down here wants us to dance with them all so that we can break past those emotional restrictions and find that love we block from ourselves. That life of ‘I’m not good enough, I can’t do this or that or even I’m not attractive or a million other things’. When we break through we finally accept ourselves for exactly as we are…warts and all…they no longer have meaning ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ’œ

      • You literally play w/ words Mark !! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ’œ

        • Mark Lanesbury

          Thank you kind lady, it is in learning and understanding great love…mine! And it is there for us all ๐Ÿ˜€ โค๏ธ ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿ’• ๐Ÿ’ž ๐Ÿ’“ ๐Ÿ’— ๐Ÿ’–

  15. I so relate, Mark. I like you am a sensitive, an empath, and for years I experienced the drain syndrome. I still do at times, and that is when I step back and question, why. Presently, previous conditions that left me drained, no longer do, because just like you, I faced my fears. Fear will strangle you, paralyze you, drain you, even kill you. I wrote a post I haven’t published regarding this very subject. Fear. When we do face our fears, we do set ourselves free. Amazing post, dear friend. I feel your heart through your words. I understand your journey. And I applaud you for setting yourself free. No one else can do it but us. When we face those fears, so much good comes to us, so much kindness, so much compassion. It’s like walking into another world. xo

    • Mark Lanesbury

      Beautifully expressed Amy. It is exactly as you just said so that we can find that inner beauty. It is in experiencing and enduring all those hardships that teach us great empathy, it is one of the greatest teachers in finding ourselves, asking us to look deeper, find why we can never seem to find that true happiness in our lives. But slowly we learn the beauty in our emotional way of being, understand why we hold those walls of pain and have the courage to look beyond what holds us back to find something that is so wonderful to be beyond words…and set us free.
      Glad to see and feel ‘another’ escapee Amy, now a soldier of that love and light by now simply just being you ๐Ÿ’œ xo
      P.S. I can even feel it in your lovely pictures dear lady. ‘You’ now permeate all that you do ๐Ÿ˜€

    • I can’t wait to read this post…….I am trying so very hard to release the past, and I am stuck and it is making me more ill. thank you for leaving this wonderful repy to Mark’s awesome post.

      • Mark Lanesbury

        It does hold you for a long time, but that too has purpose. Like anything that has taken a long time, you will appreciate it so much more because of what you have put into it, what you have endured, to find your truth, your integrity and the love and happiness we have so long looked for ๐Ÿ’œ

      • Wendi, I wasn’t going to publish this post but now that I have read your comment, I will work on it and publish it just for you. In the meantime, let me just say this …. fear will elude you. You have to be very courageous and honest with yourself to admit where fear exists in you, after vigilantly seeking it. It’s very “coincidental” that after I “saw” where fear reigns in me, immediately following (last week) I was hit so hard with one situation after another where fear reared its ugly head, leaving me yes drained, hurt, and very discouraged. This all showed me that fear was fighting back in those very areas that I finally saw where it was in me. And, I had more work to do. Now I have to examine all that occurred last week, and one by one, surround each incident with Love, and let it go. Most of my fear is based wayyyyyy back from my childhood. But that’s me. This is not for the ordinary person. This takes incredible strength, stamina, and a fierce determination to NOT allow fear to rule you. (((HUGS)))!!! xoxo

        • Oh Amy, your response brought tears to my eyes. My fear also comes from childhood trauma…….decades ago and i have been carrying it around until I just can’t carry it much longer. I have been working on it but i just can’t seem to “fix” it. So God bless you for taking the time to leave such a helpful response. I deeply appreciate it.

          • Wendi, we cannot fix what was done to us as a child. We will carry that with us for the rest of our lives. But what we can do is CHANGE how we react to that fear. That is where the empowerment comes in. We identify the root cause first (NOT easy!) and then we do things in order for those patterns to shift and change. I am working on that post right now and what I wrote I honestly believe will assist you. Just hang on until I can get it posted. No longer then Thursday you will see it. IF you are not journaling, I highly encourage you to do so. Don’t ask me how, but things will be seen by you that you just didn’t see before and then questions, pondering, and deep contemplating as how to change these patterns will occur. It’s almost like telling the Universe, your Higher Self how serious you are in wanting to change. Honey, this is one of the toughest things I’ve ever done and I’ve been doing it for more years then I’d care to see. It’s never ending, or so it seems. Do not despair however. There is a way out of your prison. I promise you. I’m matching my “magic” photos with the words I wrote to make even a bigger impact. Just wish I could hug you right now cuz I know how hard this sh*t is! BIG (((HUGS)))!!! If you are willing to put your Courage Hat on, you can address these patterns that were created in you by another. You are NOT these patterns. But, they would like you to think that. xoxoxoxo

            • there is so much i want to write to you but my mind is a completely jumbled mess. i thought i was addressing the issues but i don’t seem to make any progress and it is so very hard to be bombarded with triggers over and over……..there are so many and i have been working on this for YEARS……decades. Thank you for the virtual hug, I could feel it. ๐Ÿ™‚ Looking so forward to your post this week!

              • blindzanygirl

                Wendi I had no idea you were fighting with such fears. Or that you had chikdhood trauma. I have just found Markโ€™s blog and was reading through this, and found you here. I am so sorry. I did not know. I tok have had MUCH childhoid trauma, and the associated fear. I will be praying for you and thinking of you wendi. God be with you my sweetheart โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

              • I am so thankful you found Mark’s blog, he is an amazing human being and you will be blessed just by your visits here.
                I am deeply sorry that you also experienced such “things” too,that even to this day I cannot write about. Chronic illness and trauma tend to go together so I should have known you were suffering too and I am sorry I did not reach out to you.
                Thank you for your kind words my dear, I will send up an extra prayer for you today!

              • blindzanygirl

                Hi Wendi. Itโ€™s fine that you did not reach out to me. I am ok with thungs. I am 71 years old now, and have cime to terms with things. ๐Ÿ˜Š. It doesnโ€™t matter what I have or have not gone through. I am trulu k now. Bless you wendi for caring โค๏ธ

              • I am so thankful that you are ok now with everything that you went through. Please know that I do care about you.

              • Wendi, deep breaths. This journey is HARD. My post will be up today. Get to a place that you stand up and says, “NO! I will understand why I am reacting as I am to those triggers and I will change my actions to them.” Believe me, I too still get triggered but when the situation arises, I do my BEST to stay unattached and apply new actions. That always doesn’t happen. Again, this is a LONG process! Be gentle on yourself. You’ve done a lot of work thus far …. know it and own it. xoxoxo

              • Sending you so much love right now………and I sincerely hope you can feel it!

              • I do. (smile)

              • ๐Ÿ™‚ YAY!

              • THE POST IS PUBLISHED!

              • God bless you!

              • Mark Lanesbury

                Sorry Wendi (and Amy and blindzanygirl), I just found this and 2 other comments from Wendi to Amy and blindzanygirl in the spam folder. I shall monitor my spam folder a little bit closer. I got blas’e because I hadn’t had any for weeks…silly me ๐Ÿ˜€

              • ๐Ÿ™‚ WP wants to keep us on our toes I guess.

              • Mark Lanesbury

                Probably! My apologies for that Wendi, it was a very important part of the conversation ๐Ÿ˜•

              • no a problem at all……….i have had my share of issues with WP.

              • Mark Lanesbury

                ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ ๐Ÿ˜€

  16. Busy now …. be back later, my friend. xo

    • Mark Lanesbury

      No problem dear lady, and I hope all is well. Just go with the flow ๐Ÿ’œ xo

  17. But my darling how did you do this ?

    • Mark Lanesbury

      By facing my fears in life. My fear was a rejection of love from my father as a child, so in all my relationships I treated all the ladies with flowers, pulled out chairs, and deep affectionate cuddles so that they wouldn’t reject me. To which they eventually said ‘whoa, stop already, your drowning me’. Of course I then pointed the finger at them and asked ‘how could you not want this love?’, and proceeded to blame them. But in reality I was basing my love on that fear, petrified of being rejected and do what we all do…project those very fears. Facing our fear is done with great love to eventually break us free from them and see that we are in fact being controlled by what we hold deep in our hearts because we don’t want that pain to hurt us.
      Yes, we still have much empathy for others because of our wisdom of going through much pain ourselves. But while ever we hold those deep emotional fears they are attracting like energy to make us face them so that we can be freed from a very conditional and restricted love.
      Now the hard part. Find that thing in all your relationships that you are hurt the most by, pinpoint what makes you the most upset in how you feel you are being treated…and deep inside there is a trail back to your childhood, a place as very young children we only had a very immature emotional handling capacity for that pain…so we did the one thing that children do very easily as a coping strategy…we stuck our fingers in our ears, screamed loudly and turned away from anything that hurt, was painful to our hearts and made us feel so unloved that eventually we could even listen to that stuff…but we had by then built a wall, an emotional barrier to the pain, even though inside we would still scream from it.
      Find those inner buttons that always seem to get pressed, look deep until you understand what it is that you have hidden, even from yourself…and in there is something so powerful, so beautiful to be beyond words. Your freedom and the love you have always sought in this life is in fact waiting gently inside you to break it free, knock down that wall that held it tight, and find that unconditional within us all. The walls are those conditions we place on ourselves, the fears are those things that affect us in everything we do. Face them, break free and you will solve everything that ever held you back and open you to a love that I cannot put words to because of how beautiful it will maker you feel. Release that inner pain and you can face all the most turbulent emotional mayhem in this life and it will no longer matter. There will be nothing to attract it, no holding patterns left, and nothing within yourself that can react to it.
      To finally love yourself truly with those conditions we had placed on ourselves gone, you can now give from that unconditional place, that place that pours much love OUT, no longer being held IN โค๏ธ

      • Well that reply was breathtaking. And by the way. I love cuddles, deep kisses and to be totally immersed in the passion from my manโ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿฆ‹๐Ÿ’‹

        • Mark Lanesbury

          Yes, cuddles and deep kisses are most certainly a beautiful thing…when coming from the right place. When spirit asked me to look deeper within and ‘see’ what was driving it, and the answers slowly came out…I could see that it wasn’t my truth, it was a very distorted love. But it is important to go through that so that we can eventually see it within ourselves…and release those fears by understanding them and straighten ourselves out so that the flow is beautifully open and not a blockage in sight ๐Ÿ˜€

      • Best reply ever!! ๐Ÿ™

        • Mark Lanesbury

          Thank you kindly young lady ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ ๐Ÿ’œ

      • Reading this and realizing this is exactly what I am trying to do…….my post today, you left such a beautiful comment, is about trying to break free of childhood trauma that continues to this day. Being around that person out of necessity makes it all come flooding back time after time. I am trying to release it but it just won’t seem to go or move on. I am also extremely intuitive……this makes it so much worse. Bless you for helping others.

        • Mark Lanesbury

          It is with great love that we are continually brought into that pain, so we can finally understand it and set us free. All new situations in this world are always an awkward, nervous and even anxiety based time…until we understand them. Once understood, like a new job, it becomes so much easier and we let go of what we were holding onto…simply because we now understand it and it becomes second nature and no longer causes us concern.
          Find that childhood lock down that we stuff so far down that we even forget what it was and just remember that it was so much pain, and try to avoid it all our lives. It is something we carry all our lives on into all of our relationships and even those events in our lives to prod us and ask us to look deeper. Until it is resolved it will constantly upset us.
          But when it is understood it will ‘let go’ the mountain we have carried like forever and the release will be beyond imagining. The day I finally saw what it was, I fell into great tears, but not the tears of pain but the tears of relief, discovery, understanding and the greatest of all…actually seeing for the first time that it had been me, no one else, just me blocking my love. It was no one else causing me pain, just my immature wall that I carried everywhere and applied to every situation I found myself in.
          Find it, ask God for it, sing from your heart for it…and when it is time it will be given to you like a beautiful flower, the scent of heaven will flow from it, because it will be build on that love that creates it…an unconditional love that you can now understand because you have removed those conditions of fear from your love ๐Ÿ’œ

          • God bless you Mark for taking the time to leave such helpful and encouraging words of advice. I feel as if I am working on releasing all the past pain, but you are right, every time I am in pain due to a situation, I do learn more. The more I learn, the more pain I am in, as the truth is being revealed.
            I am looking forward to the day, hopefully soon, where I can feel that sweet release that will be filled with love.
            Again, God bless you for your help.

            • Mark Lanesbury

              Spirit asked me to share what I found, to help those when they walk this way. It takes a long time, a lifetime in fact, but that has great purpose. If you are hurt by something from a friend or partner you usually talk it over and understand where it came from, and then soon forget it or don’t give it much thought. But when it is something you have gone through with great pain over a long, long time…the fear, the agony, the emotional turmoil, the unbelievable ways it makes you feel, about yourself and others, the expectations it puts you through let alone what it makes you expect from others…and even the unimaginable endurance to keep putting one foot in front of the other…will be so profound when you finally see what it has all been for, what awaits that final understanding, to truly touch ‘your truth’, will leave you so aware of everything. You will see why it all had to happen, all of it. It opens a door to every speck of darkness you ever had, it will clear blockages you didn’t even know you had…and it will flood you with something that had always never seemed to be in your life…a love like nothing you have ever touched. No, not even from your mom or dad or even your partner. This love has no conditions placed on it…you have just removed them…and it will wrap you within it for the rest of your days…and beyond. May God bless you with that journey too dear lady โค๏ธ

              • thank you so very much….the trauma has been over decades and I continue to work through it……..I am so looking forward to experiencing this profound love and insight. Bless you for taking the time to tell me what you were encouraged to share, it means so very much to me.

              • Mark Lanesbury

                My pleasure dear lady. Our fears are always a decades long journey, it usually takes most of our lives to work through them. But as I said, that has great purpose.
                And the ‘profoundness’ is something so simple, but so powerful, simply because of what it holds. Just ask yourself how these situations make you feel, and I mean feel inside yourself. What emotions does it bring to the surface. In there is what we seek, to finally surrender the wall and dare to look inside for its meaning. In the beginning you try and try and try but never seem to grab a hold of anything…but that is just your conditioning to not want to see or feel its pain. Be strong, be courageous, and when you are ready it will let you see…and be free โค๏ธ

              • Thank you SO very much Mark. I read this response more than 10 times, allowing each word to sink into my thoughts and subconscious. It is pretty overwhelming to attempt to deal with all the past trauma but I am determined to deal with it all so that I no longer need to live in constant fear. Bless you for caring enough about others to reach out. It is a huge and deeply appreciated gift.

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