By Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Mark Lanesbury

November 4, 2014

And healing the heart from within! 🙂

Reblogged from apeerless

Beautiful People...

“The most beautiful people we have known
are those who have known defeat,
known suffering, known struggle, known loss,
and have found their way out of the depths.
These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity,
and an understanding of life that fills them
with compassion, gentleness,
and a deep loving concern.
Beautiful people do not just happen.”
~ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

26 thoughts on “By Elisabeth Kübler-Ross”

  1. Thank you so much for this message this morning, Mark. I really needed to hear it. I am finding it quite hard as we approach Christmas and I have a terrible barking cough that’s threatening to put me in hospital and a broken foot. Last Christmas I had chemo to treat an auto-immune disease which attacks my muscles and while I am philosophical and thankful for my treatments and relieved that my foot is in a boot and not in a cast, I am also feeling like Grumpy Cat. The claws are coming out. My health problems are having a serious impact on my family and while it’s not my fault, I am starting to feel like a curse. I do have on the ground support here so I’m not about to do something “silly” but seeing so many friends posting photos of their kids on Facebook winning awards when my kids are getting messed up really hurts. It’s funny how I can write so freely to you as a stranger when I find it so difficult to share these thoughts with people in real life and do things like performing my violin the other night straight after breaking my foot. I didn’t do that because I’m a hero or because I believe the show must go on. I was there to perform and so that’s what I did. I compartmentalised it and did what I did. I also went on to watch my kids perform in their school talent show the next morning but then it was xray.
    By the way, I found you via Max the Dog. Love that blog and yours looks great too. xx Rowena

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    1. Good morning Rowena, and thank you for sharing. Your journey is touching many buttons within and the need to express that has been now. The fact that you did means to me that you no longer wish to be ‘Grumpy Cat’ and live, instead of being a target for everything around you. The post of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross has great meaning within it AND by your understanding of it. The journey is always about how YOU perceive the world. Ten people can say that they were at an event, but you will always get ten different versions of it. It is your version that you know is right for you, that you wish. As you go through the many things that poke and prod, they are there because they are making you that beautiful person. Each thing that feels hurtful, ask yourself why it feels that way to you. I doesn’t for the next ten people, but does for you. If you can truthfully look deep inside and understand why you react the way you do…your free. You now understand what drives it and can now release it and be your truth. That is why the many who go through many hardships are such beautiful people…because they now understand their hardships and now have that wisdom to share with others. I hope your heart has the strength to look within and find the beauty and wisdom that is waiting for you. Max the Dog, now I’m curious, I’ll have to go have a look 🙂 Thank you again Rowena for your lovely openess, and the strength in your heart to do so. xo Namaste

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      1. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I am perceived to be a very positive person and I have experienced so many miracles and the fruits of simple persistence, despite my medical situation, which can fluctuate quite markedly and can’t really be classified easily. It was actually unusual for me to be able to express those emotions although afterwards I did go and say that I was having a grumpy cat day on Facebook. I like using humour to get through hard times and natural joke about my misadventures but sometimes I want to step out from being the clown and reveal the tear and it’s not always easy to do that in real time. Even with my broken foot in the boot, I almost look fine and am in pretty good spirits.
        I like what you said about how you respond to other people. I can see that most clearly in how my son responds to things and he tells me that I don’t love him and he really believes it. I used to do the same with my mum and she used to tell me things like: “but I stood in the supermarket queue for you.” Being a kid, I had no idea what she was getting at. She was running around doing things for me and yet I didn’t feel loved. Perhaps, a lot of kids just want us to stop doing and just play with them instead.
        I do find my hardships have given me greater empathy and I’m so excited whenever I meet someone else who is like-minded.
        What I have found particularly helpful has been learning the violin. I took it up abut 3 years ago just to help my daughter. Because of this, I wasn’t learning for myself and come into it via the backdoor. It is a very great way to develop resilience because you have to put up with a lot of screeching and scratching as that bow saws across the strings. I really noticed the benefits of daily practice and building up a new skill slowly and step by step instead of giving up when I didnt get it right the first time. This experience really helped me learn how to ski and instead of heading straight down the mountain, I had lessons and really practiced my moves on the flats for a few days before I went up. This repetitive practice really paid off because in 5 days of skiing, I didn’t fall once. With my medical history, that was a real miracle. Thank you for caring and being a beautiful soul xx Rowena

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        1. Hi Rowena! We pick up our fears as children, usually by about 8 or 9 years old. Seeing things, that to an adult aren’t even there, but to a child is heart wrenching. We then spend the rest of our lives hiding from those fears that are produced. But they have great purpose in showing us those negative aspects of life so that when we have a break through, the beauty that we find is so profound BECAUSE of what we have gone through before. And you are definitely right, our children just want a hug, a personal contact instead of the 9 to 5 drudgery we put ourselves through for our children, when in fact it really takes that closeness away. We’re too busy, tired and emotionally drained ourselves that it just seems all too hard, so we block the one thing that they need and would break that cycle for them, and their future with their children. Many thanks for sharing again Rowena, being able to express our concerns is always part of our constant healing. xo Mark

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          1. Mark, you will laugh at this. I saw my grandmother’s teeth in a container when I was about 5 and it really freaked me out. I have been absolutely terrified of false teeth for years and it’s such a stupid fear and I knew it. xx Ro

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            1. Actually it wasn’t the teeth Rowena, it was probably your thought that someone you loved very much had something wrong with them and because you didn’t understand it (well, you were 5), your reaction was one of thinking she was broken or not well. I know a lot of oldies have fun with kids by plonking their false teeth on the table, to frighten them and get a laugh, but unbeknownst to them, they are affecting kids like you who are too young to understand and they take on this horror that someone they looked up to must be sick or diseased and they can react badly to it. BUT, in doing that, maybe you now have the best set of pearly whites in the world because of that instance, and are now the ambassador for Colgate Toothpaste 🙂 All, and I mean all things in our lives, whether positive or negative, have a great purpose. Sometime not seen for many years later, but they do give you much direction in how you react to them. So definitely not a stupid fear, they all have great meaning, even from a set of teeth in a glass 🙂 Namaste

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              1. Thank you very much for that Mark. Yes, I have looked after my teeth. My poor mother, however has bad teeth and spent a fortune getting them fixed. I don’t think she fancies false teeth either but she knows what I’m like too.
                Wishing you a peaceful and loving Christmas Mark and a year filled with goodness and light xx Rowena

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  2. Beautiful. Love, love, love it! I’m going to write this down and make one of my index cards that I decorate with positive quotes, sayings, poems, etc. and hang them in my bedroom and office This quote is so very true. Thanks for sharing. Namaste! 🙂

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    1. Thank you my dear friend, it is a very beautiful quote and so very true. Which will make you the most beautiful soul in the world from the journey you have taken. Much pain has been endured Wild Flower, but such love and wisdom is your destination. Have a beautiful day! 🙂 Namaste

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        1. It will be so. And you most definitely don’t have to believe me. It is what you feel in your heart. Does it give you comfort and peace, does it resonate as a truth, and not an uncomfortable sensation and a response from your body like cringing, frowning or an urge to block or protect yourself. I’ll give you an example. Whenever a politician gets up and begins to speak about something, how do you feel…exactly. They do not resonate with who you are within. When someone comes from a place of truth you feel their energy, you can feel that what they speak is from a love within. Those who have been through much hardship give out an empathy and love to others because they ‘know’ the pain and hardship of that journey. It is as natural as breathing. You do it for others from your blog, you explain the pain and hardships and the responses that go with them, and when another who hasn’t been through this before comes to you, you give from within to help them on their journey. It is called love, you give from that beautiful place within. I bow to a master Wild Flower, may you always know the wisdom of that love within. Namaste

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          1. Oh I believe you, Mister. LOL 🙂 I do get what you’re saying. I am, now, just about ready to heave this bastard laptop across the room. I had my comment all done and was ready to hit reply and the damn thing disappeared. Sigh………….I swear, I hate this damn thing. Anyway, where was I? Oh, yes, I was saying that i just have to mess with ya every once in awhile cause that’s just what Wild Flower does best, right? Now what I recommend is that you lay down, put on some AC/DC or Ozzy, you know right where to find it. I put these things on my blog to make it easier for you to find and enjoy. So, lay down, get your music going, and just relax. I’ll get busy sending that love and healing energy over to you. I have no idea what time of day it is over there, but if it’s daytime, lay down for a nap and just breathe and listen to that beautiful music by Ozzy and AC/DC and receive all the goodness coming your way. Namaste. Wild Flower must now take her evening cocktail of synthetic drugs and such and pray for sleep, right after I get done with you. Relax and you shall receive. Give me about 15 minutes and I’ll get this party started, okay? 🙂

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            1. Sold 🙂 Music on…a bit of Coldplay (Sky Full of Stars), and awaiting your lovely energy, thank you! 🙂 (By the way, it’s 3.30pm, bit early for sleep but great for nanna nap! 🙂 ) Night!

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              1. Coldplay is good, very good. I do love Coldplay’s music, myself. Hope you had a good nap and all that love and healing energy made it over there to you. I’ll send you some more tonight, my time, around 11:00 p.m. So, get ready because I’m going to send a gigantic dose, one that might rock you to your core, in a good way! Peace out, buddy ole’ pal O’ mine. xxx 🙂
                Wild Flower 🙂
                Peace out! 🙂

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                  1. No problem, glad I can be of help. You’ve helped me way more than I’m sure you’re even aware of. I’ll leave you alone for a few days so you can continue helping your friend. Have a ‘good’ weekend, my dear friend. Namaste! 🙂

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                    1. As you have also helped me ma’m. Lessons are always a two way street, thankfully, or all the teachers would get very tired 🙂 I’ll just be a little more quiet over the next week or so. I’ll try to keep up with stuff, just not answering as much as I’d like. Haveagoodweekend too! 🙂 Namaste

                    2. You got that right, Sir! Now, get on with your helping your friend duties and I’ll be right here when you get the time. You know I must get the last word in, so no response is necessary because it will just cause me to have to reply. Namaste! I’ll be sending some of that good ole love and healing energy daily, so be prepared. 🙂

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